Speeches???

So the father of the groom did one, I said something shortly, my moh did one, my husband did a short one and then the best man did one. So me and my husband only really said short thank yous and it was also a short little thing to segue to the Moh and best man speeches.
None of us gave a speech at rehearsal dinner either but I think it'd be nice to if you did as a thank you

I think our plan is to have us and any of the parents give a speech or say some kind words at the rehearsal and then just MOH and BM speak at the wedding.

Our MOH and best man will be making speeches at the wedding. And towards the end of the night, my FH and I will make a joint thank you to our gests.

The only “speech” at our wedding was my husband and I getting up to thank our guests from coming, otherwise we skipped toasts. It can really be whatever you want. The two important guidelines would be : make sure someone thanks the guests (this is why the father of the bride has traditionally spoken : as the host in old tradition, the host would thank the guests— these days the “host” can be any number or combination of people so has expanded beyond or isn’t necessarily the father of the bride. In my opinion, all that is important here is that *someone* addresses the guests with thanks. As we had many contributors [my parents, his, and us], in our case, we found it best to do this ourselves). The other important guideline is to. It go TOO crazy with “speeches” — consider your guests don’t want to sit through 30 min of people rambling on — so, it is okay to have multiple people speak, as long as they know to keep it short and sweet. (I went to a wedding where the FoG was really the main funder of the event, and he gave a short and sweet host’s thank you toast. The FoB however, did not want to be bested by the FoG and I think already felt that way a bit by not being the biggest contributor. So, he felt he needed to address the room as well, and bigger and better than FoG, ....so he walked up to the mic with at least a 5 page speech. It dragged on so was boring for the guests, and frankly, kind of awkward to watch!)

I don’t think because you each have 2 siblings they all NEED to get a chance to speak. I think the honor left to MOH and best man is par for the course....then again we each only have 1 sibling so don’t know the dynamic 🤣— you know your relationships best! (As far as if someone would feel left out). Really, you can talk to them and feel it out and do what works best for all of you. Ultimately we didn’t have speeches because the best man did NOT want to do one and we were on board with respecting that. I brought that info to my MOH and told her basically, he definitely wasn’t going to do one, but she could if she chose but to feel no obligation. We didn’t want to cut speeches all together if she’d been dreaming of this moment from our childhood, but. If she didn’t want to or if she didn’t feel inclined to be the only speech giver , we didn’t care at all (this was personal— I know some people definitely do care and want this! And that’s fine too!). Her response to be was basically like “ohhh! One less thing for me to worry about? I’m down! Count me out” haha — so, asking the individuals is important . Maybe the siblings want to, maybe they really don’t!

Just a reminder that these should be TOASTS not speeches. As in, none of them should be more than a minute, MAYBE two.

Most weddings I've been to MOH and BM say something short, the host (usually FOB) goes last, and the groom speaks sometimes, but not always.

In the UK, traditionally it's fob, groom, best man in that order
they are also speeches, not toasts, so the norm is stories about the bride/groom etc as well as thanks you.

But it could be different depending on where you live

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We are doing the following order for toasts: best man, maid of honor, bride's parents (I think my mom will do the talking), groom's parents (I think it'll be my father in law), and then us (really quick, and my fiance said he wants to do it).

We had our toasts in our ceremony, best man then best lady. Then we exchanged our vows. You can do whatever you like it's your wedding