For our wedding we plan to have my MOH give a speech and possibly my FH’s best man, only if he feels comfortable speaking in front of a large crowd. In addition, my FH would like his other best friend, a girl he’s known since middle school, to give a speech. He spoke at her wedding and would like her to do the same at ours. She isn’t part of the actual wedding party- we get along fine but I just don’t feel I know her well enough to include as a bridesmaid. I’m wondering how this will flow during the ceremony (i.e. not following tradition of MOH and BM giving a speech). I just don’t want it to seem weird to guests to see a random person not in the wedding party getting up to give a speech (and potentially make other guests think they can get up to give a speech too), but maybe I’m overthinking things? Our wedding will be more non traditional in other aspects but this is one thing I’m grappling with as I’ve always viewed speeches done more traditionally.
I don't know if I'd ask someone who's not in the wedding party (or an immediate family member, like a parent) to give a speech. Technically, anyone can be asked, but I wouldn't feel like it was fair to ask them to do the prep and then do some public speaking if they weren't recognized as a bridal party member.
In that vein, I'm not sure why your FI wouldn't just have her as a groomswoman/his best woman if they're quite close?
I don’t think it’s a big deal as long as you announce that she will be giving a speech and don’t open up the floor I think people will get that they can’t make one too. I’d also emphasize to her that she can make one if she feels comfortable but she absolutely does not need to.
I’ve never seen anyone give a speech during the ceremony, so I would find that more odd than the fact that she wasn’t in the wedding party. I honestly doubt anyone will think twice about it. I would just make sure the DJ (or officiant?) knows to take the mic back and not let anyone else speak.