Specifying no gifts

Guests know that gifts are optional. Everyone will ask you so you say you aren't registered and leave it at that. People will gift you what they normally would, which means you will get gifts you don't want and can't return from some so accept them graciously with prompt thank you notes.

View Quoted Comment I would never not send a thank you note. I have a specific type of Crane thank you cards I’ve used for decades, I enjoy writing them, it’s so relaxing for me.

I think your wedding website is the perfect place to put that information. Also, if you include a detail card with your invitations, you could always put something to the effect of “your presence is your present” on it as well.

I would post this information on your wedding website.

Agree, wedding website and don’t register anywhere!

I am just not registering at all.

View Quoted Comment US either. I just don’t want anyone - well meaning because they are happy for us - to think we want gifts.
I did tell my FH a while ago that I hoped people didn’t think this was a gift grab (I’m always worried about putting people out!) and he reminded me our friends wouldn’t think that way about us or they wouldn’t be our friends.
Honestly most of it stems from reading too many advice columns where people complain about weddings just being a reason to expect gifts LOL