Special needs sis in wedding...

@Abigail- I'm going to see if she'd be ok walking after the flower girls right before I come out.

@Casey- Your sister sounds adorable! That also made me cry. I love when people understand how hard it has to live with special needs and they do everything they can to be there for them! She is going to be on a higher cloud than you on your wedding day

@Ab Z: She makes it hard to be nice to her all the time but I do my best Love the idea of the flowers! She'd love having that handed to her. I was thinking about doing silk/real touch flowers ever since I saw how awesome real touch are and that would be so easy to have that done! Or heck I could just carry a smaller bouquet and just give her one for herself. I love making her part of this.

Well.... I asked Christie if she'd like to be a 'bigger flower girl' and walk down the isle herself with 2 different colored pedals that she'll toss as she walks and she said "uh huh." I asked to make sure she would be comfortable with it and she responded with 'uh huh' again! I told her if she wasn't comfortable then we could figure something out so she doesn't walk by herself; secretly my FH will 'rescue' her and walk down the isle with her! Also using the advice from Ab Z. with giving her flowers (possibly just turning it into her own bouquet). Thanks ladies!!!

I think you must love your sister very much.Maybe you can speak some words about your sister at your wedding. I think your sister will stand out and she will be moved by you. Hope your dream can come true.

She can still be somewhat like a bridesmaid, wear the dress, carry the bouquet, and walk down the aisle just have her walk down and sit down with your parents and grandparents! This way she does not have to stand yet she can still have her moment in the spotlight! my cousin has downs syndrome and is my ring bearer!

I didn't read all these, but can she be a train bearer or carry a basket of flowers to the front to represent your deceased relatives?

Why not ask her what she wants to do?

I think having her do that is a great idea Jessica I'm sure even if she can't tell you, she appreciates that you asked her too! I hope things go well the day of! I'll be praying for you all!

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Im not sure if you have a train on your dress or not, but having your sister carry your train up until the walk would be a sweet idea, Then she can have her moment walking in before you down the aisle with a bouquet! Remnants of a Royal Wedding

@Jayden'sMom- If I asked her what she'd want to do she'd say "I don't know" then get frustrated. She sounds excited for the option I suggested.

@Keatha- She'll be similar to a flower girl. I might change it as the months go on, but I just wanted to have something for her since she kept asking

@Kristina- I'm not sure what my dress will be yet but I thought about that too!

I have a sister with special needs and an idea that we thought of was to have her bring the sand over to us during the sand ceremony...no people to interact with, quick, she gets her few minutes in the spotligt, and you feel good knowing that she was a part of your big day. Hope this helps

She could carry something down the aisle that relates to the ceremony. Then, sit once her duties are finished. Maybe a symbolic marriage certificate (or the real one if you want) that she places somewhere then sits down.

Who says that the ring bearer has to be a little boy?

We are having the Love Letter Ceremony and will have a box that we put the letters in as part of the ceremony. If you did that, could she bring the box in and place it in the spot for the ceremony?

Could she light candles?

My parents are deceased so my mother won't be escorted in as the "start" of the ceremony. So, I am having each of our sisters (his only sister, my 2 sister plus my one "pretend sister") escorted down the aisle one by one and will sit on the front row. We are calling this segment "Seating of Family" so instead of having bridesmaids walk down the aisle (I only have a MOH), the family walks down the aisle.

You could also check with her companions/caregivers to see if they have any ideas of something. Perhaps she is sharing secret dreams with them. I have been a caregiver before and sometimes the clients share things with us that the family doesn't get to hear, or maybe has experience with other clients that can be used in this situation. If you are going to have an aisle runner perhaps she could unroll it, this would allow her to start out in front of people, but the pressure would be easing as she is on her way to the back.