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Olivia
Dedicated December 2022

Special Jobs for Siblings??

Olivia, on December 19, 2019 at 11:37 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 2 8

My FH has a lot of brothers and I have a brother. We want all of our brothers to be included, but having them all be groomsmen (along with his best friend) might end up being crowded on the altar. Are there any jobs some of the brothers could do and still feel included?

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  • Emily
    Dedicated October 2021
    Emily ·
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    You can have them be ushers. They will seat your guests and any special guests for the ceremony. They can be mentioned in your program if you decide to do one and your wedding website. You could also have them do readings during your ceremony, walk grandparents, Parents etc in before the bridal party. Ummmm that's all I can think of off the top of my head.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    They don't all have to be groomsmen, they can stand on your side as well. Depending on their ages they can also do readings, be ushers, or ring bearers.

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I would ask them if/how they would like to be included (other than as treasured guests, of course).


    My brothers and my husband have all been included in weddings, performing "jobs" that were added out of feelings of obligation. Each one of them was annoyed at feeling like they were included for the wrong reasons, at having to rent tuxes and spend more money for other pre-wedding events, and then perform unnecessary "duties" at weddings when they would really just have preferred attending as guests.


    Obviously, everyone will have different feelings about this, so just ask them.

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  • Sierra
    Dedicated July 2021
    Sierra ·
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    Readings are a good option. They won't be up with you the whole time (so the alter won't be crowded) and they can be part of a very special moment.

    If you're Jewish or want to adopt a Jewish tradition (totally Kosher to do!) we will often have four special people carry in the chuppah (canopy held up by four poles). It is a symbol of the home the couple will build, with the walls open because our homes will be open to our friends and family. So the people chosen to walk it in at the beginning of the ceremony get a lot of positive attention, without having to stay up there after.

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  • Dayna
    Expert September 2021
    Dayna ·
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    Really depends on their ages but I agree with PP who mentioned readings, ushers, or ring bearers. If they are teenagers/adults you could ask them to give speeches at the reception or do a dance with your brothers. How many brothers do you have between the two of you? My sister and her husband had 9 BMs and groomsmen, so you could certainly do a big bridal party if your venue is big enough.

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  • Olivia
    Dedicated December 2022
    Olivia ·
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    There are 6 brothers and 5 sisters between the 2 of us. Most of our brothers are older, but his youngest brother is only 9. I might have him do something different because his attention span is way shorter than everyone else's.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    We had 9 BM and 10 GM. My husband's 4 sisters were bridesmaids and my brother was a groomsman. We didn't want any other options for them.

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  • VIP August 2020
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    My brothers are going to be bridespeople.

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