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Devoted December 2018

Special guest (?) etiquette

on November 6, 2017 at 6:58 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
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Good early morning (or evening), everyone. I have a dilemma. So I had already chosen my bridal party in my mind as soon as I got engaged 2 years ago. The girls consist of my siblings and CLOSEST cousins. I recently asked each of them to be in our wedding so that they could have time to save, because 75% are college students. However, I have made an AMAZING friend within the last few months, a friend from my old job that I never knew would mean so much to me. I invited her to my wedding, but is there a way I can "honor" her as a special person in my life without asking her to be in the wedding? Its just that she has been helping me with dealing with my sick mom, my wedding-related stress, etc. I have helped care for her daughter and they both mean the world to me. I have asked her for her daughter to be a flower girl. Is that rude? I just want her to feel appreciated. Should I get her a corsage, flowers, or something, or am I overthinking this?

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Latest activity by Leila, on November 6, 2017 at 8:11 AM
  • stephanie
    Super October 2017
    stephanie ·
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    Yes you are overthinking it. You can invite her to get ready with you the day of, come to rehearsal, etc. even though she isn't in the party.

    At my brother's wedding I did a reading, but they still invited me to ride on the party bus and hang out while they took pictures and whatnot between the wedding and reception.

    Also, my BP was just my MOH, but when I got my nails done the day before, my mom, her best friend, my SIL, my other brother's gf, and another friend of mine all came with MOH and me to get nails done. There's no rule that certain things have to be BP only! Another friend and her daughter hung out w MOH and me while we were getting ready and it was so awesome to get to visit w her during that time since she doesn't live near me.

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  • Beachy
    VIP November 2017
    Beachy ·
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    I have a friend like this and I was honest with her. I would loved to have her as a BM but I just can't have anymore. But only 50 people are coming ( out of an invited 80) and she's one of 3 sets of friends....the rest family. She's honored and I am happy she will be there.

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  • Devoted December 2018
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    Great, thank you ladies! Whewww.

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  • Amandaw
    VIP April 2018
    Amandaw ·
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    And I would wait til the wedding is closer. You don't know how you will feel about everyone then

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  • Leila
    Super October 2017
    Leila ·
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    I think asking her daughter to be FG is an honor enough. You can have her read a poem or something during the ceremony but I would do anything else to single her out.

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