Sooooooo i need help!

You can start dress shopping now. Depends on when you need final count by for the invites but most people do it 6-8 weeks before

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Mmmm makes sense. Thank you!

As Melle said, invitations usually go out around 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Many women start dress shopping a year out. I would hold off on bridesmaid dresses until after you find your dress. Whether or not they are in the same style is entirely up to you. Some people like everyone in the same dress. Others like having everyone in the same color (or color palette), length, and fabric, but allow bridesmaids to choose dresses that fit their personality (with differences in neckline and such).

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Ahhhhh okay

Invites can be sent out by March April....especailly if you done save the dates (STD) if you havent not its ok to send by Jan

I would send out invitations in April! I would also start looking at dresses now - research styles that you like online, then go try them on at stores. It can take 4-6 months for a wedding dress to arrive, and 2-3 months for alterations. For bridesmaids dresses, maybe order them in January or February? Those don't take as long to arrive once ordered (my bridesmaids ordered theirs from Azazie, and got them within 8 weeks). As for whether the bridesmaids dresses should be matching or not, that is totally up to you!

Yep, exactly as other PP said. Start dress shopping ASAP, invitations can and probably should wait as you may change your mind in regards to the schedule, and you really only need RSVP’s a few weeks in advance to get an actual head count.

Are you planning to send Save the Dates? Those typically go out 8-10 months in advance

When to send out invites?

Invites normally go out 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding. If you want your guests to know about your wedding in advance and have more time to plan, I would recommend sending out save the dates. Pretty much every wedding I've been to I have received a save the date for. We did magnets for save the dates and we got them from VistaPrint. They were very nice, came quickly and were rather inexpensive as VistaPrint had a great sale.

When to start looking for your wedding dress?

Generally, a year in advance is recommended. With Covid, it might take even long to get your dress so I would start looking ASAP.

When to start looking for bridesmaids dresses and is it easier to have the girls in the same style dress?

I would wait to look for bridesmaids dresses until you have your wedding dress. As for whether it is easier to have them in the same style, I think it depends. If all of your girls are roughly the same weight and height then it wouldn't be that difficult, but if you have girls that are varying weights and heights it would be more difficult to find a dress that falters all of them and they are all comfortable wearing. I wanted all of my girls in the same style. I went to 5 different places with them until we found a dress. The first four were very small stores with limited options, but I didn't realize that as I was not familiar with the stores since we went shopping in another state. The stores had also assured me they had a lot of options for the girls to try on in the right color and price range, but that wasn't true at all. I didn't want to go to David's Bridal, but after the first four stores didn't really have anything, we went to David's Bridal which is where we found the dress. A week before my wedding, my sister called me up refusing to wear the dress because she didn't like how it looked after alterations. The way it sat on her made the dress look very low cut. Our seamstress offered to put in a modesty plan, but my sister didn't like that idea. The seamstress looked to see if her store had any dresses that would closely match, but she didn't. I had told my sister she could get a dress in one of our other colors since she was maid of honor, but she hated that idea as well. So a week before my wedding, I was calling around to multiple David's Bridals where I live to find a long Valentine dress that was in her size that I could buy off the rack. I managed to find one so I had to shipped from Maryland (where I live) to Pennsylvania (where she lives) to have it altered. The amazing seamstress said she could alter it within a day if my sister brought the dress to her. She received it Wednesday night so she took it Thursday afternoon to have the seamstress alter it. The seamstress had the dress back to her Friday morning. Between Friday morning when she picked it up and Saturday when the wedding was my sister attempted to throw a cigarette out the window of her car and the cigarette instead landed in the back seat on bottom part of the dress and created a burn mark. My sister-in-law used pins to hide the burn mark. After all of the drama with my sister and how difficult it was to find the original dress, I wish I would have allowed them to select their own style as long as it was the right manufacture, color, and length.

Most send their invites out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, which is proper etiquette but it's not a requirement. I sent mine out a little earlier than that though. I got married in February and sent my Save the Date out in September of 2019 and sent out our invitations in November (the day after Thanksgiving) with the RSVP due date of January 15, 2020.

For your dress, I'd say you can start looking as early as you like. For me, I went dress shopping in the beginning of May and purchased my dress at the end of May. It took about a month for it to come in. Luckily for me, my dress fit like it was made specifically for me and I did not need any alterations, but give yourself at least 3 additional months for that.

My bridesmaids picked out their dresses when they could. I went with 2 of them to get their's but the other 3 lived in a different area than me and I couldn't go with them. I didn't make my bridesmaids wear all the same dress either. I gave them the brand and the color from that brand and let them pick their own style; just a long as it was a long dress I didn't care what it looked like. I decided to do it that way b/c I know different dresses look different on specific body types and I wanted all of my bridesmaids to be comfortable. I just told my bridesmaids to have their dresses in their closets at least a month before the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Ahhh wow that makes sense tbh. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Ahhh yes, okay. All this is advice is really helping! Thank you!

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For invites, I sent them 3 months in advance and the return date was about one month before our date. Some people say RSVP 2 weeks before but I felt like I would need more than 2 weeks to reach out to people who did not RSVP and plan out the seating chart, table tents.

About dress shopping......it's never too early to me. I couldn't wait to go try dresses on. I had a hard time choosing the one though until we booked our venue. So I would make sure you book your venue before you decide on a dress.

The Bridesmaids dresses......I let my girls have the freedom on this one and I regret it now. I would really think of the look that you want. I did chose the length, color, and fabric(fabric is huge in making sure the dresses are the same color). Looking back, I wish I would have had them get dresses with ruffles on them or dresses that have lace at the top. They all picked dresses that are there style, which is great...but I'm girly girl and some of my besties are more sporty.