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Soon to be Mother in law asked if i was buying a dress

Samantha, on February 23, 2023 at 10:54 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11

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So my soon to be mother in law asked if I was buying a wedding dress and I said yes and that I had stopped in at David's bridal to take a look around already and then she said nothing. She is very controlling and likes to take charge of things and push her opinions on u so we told her we are gonna take care of everything our selves. Because she also likes to take credit for things she didn't do if u do let her help. So I'm trying to figure out y she asked this, because she didn't ask like what kind of dress I was thinking about or if I was gonna have any one go to final fitting. I kinda feel in a way like it was oh ur buying a dress. Like most people that get married buy a dress it seems like a silly question. How would u take it?

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Lisa Online · on February 23, 2023 at 11:12 AM
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I'm wondering if maybe she was curious if you were going to wear your mom's wedding dress instead of buying one, or maybe she was wondering if you were going to ask her if you could wear her wedding dress, or maybe she was hoping you were going to invite her to go dress shopping with you? Since she didn't say anything after you replied to her question, I wouldn't worry about it. I would let it go and try not to analyze a motive behind her question too much.
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Erin · on February 23, 2023 at 11:16 AM
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Agree with Lisa she might have been fishing to see if you were going to invite her dress shopping. I would just take all her questions at face value and give her general answers.

Also if you don’t want her to come dress shopping with you, don’t feel obligated or bullied into inviting her. I personally did not ask my MIL to join dress shopping as we don’t exactly have the best relationship. I only let me my mom and sis come with me and that was it.
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Samantha · on February 23, 2023 at 12:06 PM
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Ty for your help
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Michelle · on February 23, 2023 at 1:43 PM
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In past generations, it was common and expected to wear your mother’s dress instead of buying a new one. If she is controlling and whatnot, it is fiancé’s job to sit her down and maintain boundaries so that she respects you and doesn’t make you uncomfortable. Ignore her, don’t engage her in conversation and don’t go places with her. Let her make herself look like a fool.
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Michael Online · on February 23, 2023 at 2:02 PM
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Like others have said, she may have been asking to come with you -- but just not quite with the right wording. If your FMIL doesn't have a daughter getting married (or already so), she may want to be involved in the bridal side here. But if she has a dominating personality, she may be the last one you want to have dress shopping. Maybe take her along to find the perfect shoes.
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CM · on February 23, 2023 at 5:55 PM
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She could have been fishing but she also just might have been curious or making conversation. There are brides who rent, borrow or wear an heirloom gown. Putting aside her track record of interference, I wouldn't assume ulterior motives based on one possibly benign comment.
Either way you don't have to include her or anyone else when dress shopping unless you want them there.
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Samantha · on February 24, 2023 at 4:20 AM
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Ty. Yes she is very controlling and I try not to talk to her .
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Paige · on February 28, 2023 at 10:31 AM
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If I had to guess, I'd say it seems like she's looking for an invitation to go dress shopping. If she's the controlling and selfish type, I wouldn't bring her with you. Buying a wedding dress can be super personal, emotional, and often confusing, and you don't need another voice in your ear pushing to get her way rather than supporting you.
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Samantha · on February 28, 2023 at 1:03 PM
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Ty. Yes she is very controlling and I try not to talk to h
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Samantha · on February 28, 2023 at 1:04 PM
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Ty. All of your comments are very helpful.
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