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Chelsea
Expert June 2015

Song requests

Chelsea, on April 8, 2015 at 5:14 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14
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I had a great idea to put a space on the RSVP for song requests. We have gotten a few RSVP's back(yay) and FH and I have cringed at some of the songs.

Would it be rude to play the less desired songs at cocktail hour. Is there normally music at cocktail hour?...

Have any of you done the request thing?

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Latest activity by almostmrs050915, on April 8, 2015 at 11:00 PM
  • Emmy
    Master January 2015
    Emmy ·
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    I had a request thing on my website, but never really followed up with it, I think someone requested tub thumper by chumbawumba...I don't know if it got played or not. I doubt they will really remember that they even wrote anything, and if they do they can always request it during the dance party time.

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  • Heidi
    Expert September 2016
    Heidi ·
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    I have all confidence in our DJ ... but I plan to add a space on the RSVPs (and on the website) for song requests also.

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  • C
    Super March 2016
    ChelsM ·
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    I don't think I'll be doing this because of that reason. I really want to avoid wedding music cliches, all the group dances and stuff make me itch. I know if we ask for requests we'll have to do the Cupid Shuffle and the Cha Cha Slide and whatever else we had to do at high school prom. Some people like it and that's fine, just not my style.

    We're specifically excluding country and rap because one or the other of us hates that genre. So requests that came back would no way stick to that. Long story short, I'm no help in this case.

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  • Ally
    Master October 2016
    Ally ·
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    It's a request, that doesn't mean you have to play it. People won't remember all the music from your wedding, anyways.

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  • purplekitten
    Master October 2015
    purplekitten ·
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    Cupid Shuffle? at PROM?

    Well now I feel old.

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  • Mrs. B
    Master October 2015
    Mrs. B ·
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    We are having mariachi during our cocktail hour. We aren't going to do the song request on our wedding website but I am sure our DJ would be comfortable accepting requests. We are pretty much giving our DJ a list of all songs that have to be played and he can mix them in accordingly to his style and to any others he wants to play.

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  • Chelsea
    Expert June 2015
    Chelsea ·
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    Yeah I was foolishly thinking that some people would put songs down and I would be like, "Oh yeah! I love that song"!

    I guess I don't HAVE to play them, some people might not remember what song they told me!

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  • karebear87
    VIP May 2015
    karebear87 ·
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    I have a thing for song requests on my website. If I really don't want the song played (had some weird requests) I just won't forward them to our DJ. I mostly wanted people to request songs so I could get an idea of what types of music people want to hear, to make sure I play to everyone and have a good mix.

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  • MG
    Expert May 2015
    MG ·
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    I'm just picking through the requests people submitted and sending the ones I like to the DJ as a secondary play list...if he gets to them great if not great also. I don't think the guests will remember!

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  • OGmelanie
    VIP July 2015
    OGmelanie ·
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    I've asked many of our co-workers for song suggestions (They make up probably 1/3 of our guest list and will be the ones who dance mostly). I told them if they have something that they'd like to hear, let me know, but I can't guarantee it will be played. They have given me so many terrible suggestions. Some I've put down on the list, but mostly I think their just trying to one up each other with the worst songs they can think of.

    If you don't like it you don't have to play it. I'm sure they won't remember some random song they picked when they're half in the bag.

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  • FinallyMrsT
    Master October 2015
    FinallyMrsT ·
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    Your wedding, your rules! You're entitled to your no-play list, just as they are entitled to make song requests (no guarantees!). I'm going to leave the song request up on our website and see what happens when RSVPs start coming in...

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  • Tara
    VIP April 2015
    Tara ·
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    Lol don't worry about it. Just let the do do his/her job!

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  • KitandKaboodle
    Master November 2016
    KitandKaboodle ·
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    When we signed the contract with our DJ, we made it very clear that he was not to take any requests from our guests. I don't want any of our 20-something guests requesting some vulgar rap music.

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  • almostmrs050915
    Devoted May 2015
    almostmrs050915 ·
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    This is funny. I literally went through our RSVP's tonight for that reason. Some people did suggest great songs. My old roommates suggested songs we used to dance around to that I would have never remembered on my own. That being said, there were some suggestions I was less excited about, and our band will not be playing those. As long as your band/DJ can keep people dancing, I think that's what's most important.

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