Someone Stole Our Guests Seat!

It’s odd that they just left instead of mentioning it so they could have chairs brought out for them. In any case, all you can do now is call them and apologize for the “mix up”. Thank them for being there during your most important moments at the alter.

It’s really weird to me that they would just leave instead of talking to someone. I agree with pp, all you can do is apologize for the mixup.

Ugh, people! Echoing what PPs said, the situation really isn't your fault, so simply say sorry about the seats. Don't beat yourself up over this

So this sort of happened to me at the last marine corp ball we went to in atlantic city. Much more people than we were used to but there was a seating chart. When we arrived at our table it was full. And I realized after talking to FH that two bimbos were there that shouldn't have been because one of his a-hole marine buddy decided it was okay to sneak two guests in that didn't pay btw (everything prepaid). I stood there and so did FH and said that two people didn't belong at that table and we stared at them. We ended up having to sit at the table next to them because the ceremony started. Well right after, said bimbos got up to go drink and left. We moved to our table. They came back and I gave them the dirtiest looks. It sucks your guests didn't say anything to anyone, even like your mom or a bridal party member to get it sorted out. But all you can do is send an apology now!

Yeah I find it odd they just left! Not your fault, and they definitely should have said something!

It's odd they left but all you can do is apologize you didn't do this purpose.

UGH i hate uninvited or unrsvp'd for guests. in my culture that happens A LOT. it is a pain because people do not realize the painstaking details and planning that go into it. i am sorry that happened to you, no bride or person planning an event would want that to happen - not the type of thing you want to expect.

i will echo what others have said, it is kind of weird they just left. but i do think it would be polite of you to reach out to them and apologize for that happening. and perhaps next time you can hang out with them or something.

View Quoted Comment It's happens alot in my husband's culture as well but we didn't want to pay for seats we didn't know about. So we tried to emphasize the importance of the guest list to people. They mentioned it to my mother in law and she said she didn't know what to do to help them so they gave her our gift and left. We reached out and I offered to give the gift back, but they said absolutely not. They get that it wasn't us. But as we're writing thank you cards I got a little stumped

I guess I forgot to mention that they spoke to my mother in law and she had no idea what to do to help them. This all happened before our entrance into the reception and she didn't mention it until a couple days later. They gave her our gift and decided to leave because there was no where for them to sit.

It seems super weird they wouldn't just ask the bride/groom, their parents, or someone that works at the venue, to get another chair. I do agree, an apology note is a nice gesture. I'd just apologize for the situation and say you did have chairs reserved, but someone must have brought an extra person or used an extra chair.

They should have told you sooner!

View Quoted Comment My husband and I along with the entire wedding party and coordinator were in another room waiting to make our entrances into the reception ballroom 😩 or else I would have gotten them 2 more chairs. No one knew til my MIL said something on Monday 😒😒

I'm so sorry! This actually happened not too long ago at friend's wedding I attended. They over-invited and of course everyone showed up! People brought dates and kids which added to the confusion. Tables of 10 had to become tables of 12 and 14. Ultimately a couple of our friends also left before the reception even began and a couple of us stayed outside of the venue. Thankfully it was a pretty day and we just ate outside.

View Quoted Comment I wish this could have been the case. There was no outdoor seating where we were and it rained that day. And all the meals were plated and paid for per guest so I feel like the servers just served according to the # of people at the table 🤦🏽‍♀️

I think you're totally right and should write them a brief card apologizing for the circumstance. Make sure they know you had accounted for them and that you're sorry that they left, as you would have made some adjustments to have them at a table. That really sucks that it happened though, how frustrating as the couple to know your guests didn't have a seat! Sorry!