Amid all the Covid19 concerns and cancelations, I just wanted to remind everyone on here that you are here because you found the love of your life and are getting married! Even if you can't have your grandparents come, need to have a smaller ceremony, or need to postpone your date, YOU ARE ONE OF THE LUCKY ONES!
Our wedding is May 30 and we are in a wait-and-see pattern. As a couple in their mid-30s, with parents in their 70s, and who don't live in either of the communities we grew up in, we are very much coming to terms with the fact that we may not be able to have a wedding celebration with all of our friends and loved ones. It is heartbreaking, and I feel so sorry for all of the couples this is impacting.
If you're considering whether or not to move your late spring or summer wedding, consider that many brides in March and April have no choice and have had to cancel or move their date.
If you're worried about your grandparents or favorite aunt not being able to attend, consider that there are couples whose parents or siblings or at risk, or even themselves or their partner.
If you're bummed that your out-of-town guests won't come, consider for that some people out of town guests include members of their family or wedding parties, many of whom may have already purchased attire and booked travel.
Consider that some couples are older and planning for children, and are not able to easily push their weddings back by one year.
Consider that many couples that have already had to postpone or change their plans are unlikely to be able to line up the exact same vendors or may not be able to get full refunds for deposits already made, and they're scrambling to find a photographer, florist, bartender, DJ, band, etc when they thought they had already had this covered.
Consider that some couples are currently geographically separated with no idea when they will reunite, due to travel restrictions.
I absolutely know how distressing and heartbreaking making changes to your wedding plans are, but the very fact that you are planning a wedding (because you found the person you want to grow old with) and able to access WW forums (because you have access to the internet or cell service) to help you is a sign of privilege and we are all so incredibly lucky to have found people we love and be in a position where the status of our weddings is one of the things we are most concerned about right now. It's totally okay to be upset. 100% totally justified! But in between the tears try to focus on that beautiful human being going through this with you and see the silver lining as best you can in this time of uncertainty, fear, and utter disappointment. Having one another is a lot. It's everything. Know your love isn't defined by what your wedding ends up being, only that you are committed to one another.
I am SO sorry for all of the couples who are dealing with the impact of this pandemic on their wedding plans. I keep having woe-is-me moments and crying, and I am sure I will continue to do so, so I know what you are going through (at least a little bit). I also know every situation is different, and for whatever things you feel you are needing to compromise right now because situations beyond your control, I am so tremendously sorry.
We will all get through this. Together.
