Some guests come for dance only?

Honestly, its really confusing for you and guests as far as keeping up with when everyone plans to arrive. I totally understand trying to include everyone but it's really not the best move and could hurt some feelings.

If they can't be invited to the whole thing then they really shouldn't be invited period. Its awkward to say "Hey, we can't really afford to feed you, but if you want to come after dinner that's cool!"

They may even bring a gift, which would definitely make me feel bad for not hosting them properly.

Ive never heard of that I would stick with all or nothing

I think an invitation should be consistent across the board. Everyone should go to the entire event, unless the ceremony is truly family only (as in parents, siblings and grandparents ONLY) otherwise you're setting yourself up for hurt feelings.

If your coworkers are OFFERING to just show up later, then its not rude. I'd just not count them in the final headcount for a caterer, because they obviously aren't eating. I'd just advise them to show up later on if they want

That's kinda what I was thinking, either I invite them, or I don't. It just surprised me this co worker brought that up. She she had been to weddings were she just went for the dance and drinks.

They don't drink too, so she tried to sell it as I wouldn't have to pay for them at all. Not that I don't want them there... I just want to wait for my rsvps to see the count. It seems weird to do that for only a few people

View Quoted Comment Yea, they offered to come later.

If they’re dancing, they’ll be drinking something even if it’s just water or soda.

I think youre better iff inviting them for the whole thing (ceremony and reception) or not at all.

That seems weird. Did you invite them to begin with? It seems odd to miss speeches, cake cutting, dinner, etc. and just come for drinking and dancing. You'd still have to include them in bar count, even though they wouldn't be there for the full time.

Right now they are b listed, I do plan on inviting them if some of my family can't make it

I never heard of this, I would say all or nothing, come for the food and dance or not at all. That gets things harder for you to plan, organize, etc

Hi there, Katerina!

I've never personally heard of this either! I think the decision is really up to you and your FS! Do whatever makes you both feel the most comfortable. I'd recommend, as previously posted, making sure that you track who is coming and when they're coming to make sure you have an accurate head count!

How many people did you invite?

I'm with everyone else.

All or nothing.

So, you didn't invite them to the ceremony but you invited the to the reception? I'm not sure I understand this. You will need to include them in your final count and you'll probably still be paying for their F&B. I wouldn't want to come to a reception for a wedding that I was not invited to. I'd feel like I wasn't important...

I'm a little confused as to your invites to. The reception is a thank you to your guest for witnessing the ceremony. It also is the more expensive part so why invite people to that but not the ceremony? I have also heard very bad experiences with B listing as people find out and feel hurt by not being "important enough".

I just wouldn’t invite them. They just want to party and not attend the actual wedding? Also tiered inviting is just generally frowned upon

It seems like you have a close relationship with your coworkers if they understand your situation you should be okay. I kind of have a similar relationship with my coworkers where we’re very honest with each other so I say if there’s that kind of understanding (and I REALLY emphasis “understanding”) it should be fine. I probably wouldn’t send a formal invitation though, maybe just verbally letting them know and/or through text. BUT, I would ask your venue/caterer if it would be okay to for friends to come for the end of the dance

I am confused because most couples do have dancing at there wedding. But your wedding is not just a social party where people come to dance the night away. Also I don't think it is right for your co-workers to put you on the spot.