My fiancé and I have been a couple since 2016. In that time I’ve learned so much about him but one of the first things I learned was the correct spelling of his first and last name. Now that we’re in the thick of wedding planning, I’m noticing something that’s becoming very irritating. It never fails....myself or my planner will reach out to a vendor using both my name and my fiancé’s name and BOOM! We get a response or a contract with his name spelled wrong. Umm did you think I don’t know how to spell my future last name? Did you think it should be spelled differently and didn’t think to ask about it before you wrote it down? Someone told me I was wrong to correct the mistake. Are you serious?!
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Thanks! It’s his last name. His last name is McQuater and everyone wants to add an “r” to make it McQuaRter. I didn’t spell it wrong in my emails so why are people adding letters to my future last name?!?
Being Nigerian, I’m no stranger to this unfortunately....Misspelling it once is whatever but if it’s happening consistently, that’s something different 🤣 Especially when I’m responding and the correct spelling is in my signature AND email address.
Definitely not wrong!!! My husband knows this all too well with his name! His name is Jeramy (with an "a") but people always tend to spell it Jeremy (with an "e"), which is the most common way. I've noticed that autocorrect always spells it that way too, so he's used to it by now, haha.
My parents would always spell his name wrong so I would have to correct them, haha.
I wouldn't take it personally, people's brain often "fill in the blanks". They probably read it as "quarter" because that's what their brains are used to. OR they automatically write the extra R out of habit. Just correct them but IMO no reason to get upset over it.
That is so frustrating! I would think that especially in the wedding business, the last names of the couple would be the top of my "let's double check that I spelled it correctly aka how they spelled it" list!!! The fact that someone tried to correct YOU on the spelling of your future last name is just beyond me...wow!
You're most definitely not wrong to correct the spelling. It is what it's supposed to be so yes, correct it every time. It could also just be a simple mistake as well. Sometimes we see letters that may or may not be there. It especially irritates me when my name is spelled out (for example on facebook) and people still get it wrong. It just happens and unfortunately something that people with "difficult" names will forever go through with AT LEAST one person. I feel your frustration.
Definitely correct them! I've had multiple vendors mess up our date, of all things. It always put me in a weird spot where I was like "um???" It just felt weird not knowing whether they meant to do it or not. But all paperwork/contracts should have proper spelling, proper dates, etc. just in case of future issues with a vendor. That alone is reason to make sure they get it right.
You definitely need to correct them - contracts with misspellings could be considered invalid (I mean, you'd probably be okay, but why take the chance). Plus, it's right there in front of them (or you're spelling it for them, so they should be able to get it right. I definitely feel your issue - my maiden name was Zimmer - no man - but SO MANY people insisted it was Zimmerman, even though it was *right in front of them*