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Just Said Yes July 2020

So Torn

Melissa, on January 29, 2020 at 8:12 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

My wedding is at the beginning of July and I haven't asked anyone to be in our wedding yet. My fiance has already asked all of his groomsmen. The reason I haven't asked is due to a fall out with my sister right around Thanksgiving. She said some horrible things to me and the rest of our family because we don't support her relationship with her husband. He has gotten her involved with drugs that have basically changed her into a completely different person. Since the fall out she hasn't spoken to any of us, but this isn't the first time this has happened. She has sworn before she would never speak to us again, but then turns around and begs for our help to watch her son, give her money, etc. However, this is the longest she has gone without communicating with any of us. Prior to the fall out, I was planning on asking her and the rest of my girls to be bridesmaids. I am really torn on what to do. I would love for my sister to be in my wedding, but sine she isn't currently speaking with us I don't see that happening. There is a chance she could change her mind between now and the wedding. I feel like one of two things could happen. 1. My sister never talks to us again or 2. My sister changes her mind, reaches out to us, and then gets angry at me when she finds out I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaids. I am not sure what to do. Would it be bad that if she does talk to us again then to ask her to be a bridesmaid or should I completely forget about her being a bridesmaid? Any advice would be appreciated.

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on January 30, 2020 at 3:22 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Go ahead and choose your bridal party ASAP because if they need to buy a dress that is money and time for it to come in. I would not include her as she has chosen her path and if she is ready to come around she can be a guest.

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
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    Choose your bridal party. If she comes around, she comes around. But drug users aren't known for their reliability. You're probably better off not depending on her.
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  • Rose
    Devoted August 2020
    Rose ·
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    I’m not sure about your relationship with your sister but my relationship with my 3 sisters is one that I can’t just call or text and be like “hey I know you’re mad but do you want to be in this wedding or not” and if she says no or doesn’t respond then there ya go. If you really want her in the wedding or at least want to ask her, then ask her. Worst she will say is no and then you have your answer.
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  • Jackie
    Dedicated October 2020
    Jackie ·
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    Choose your bridal party! Especially if you want a bachelorette party and bridal shower. Those take months in advance to plan. If you work things out with your sister you can always add her to the bridal party.
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I would just go with the other members you already had in mind for your bridal party . even if she comes around, she can still be a part of your wedding
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  • Allison
    Savvy October 2020
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    I would pick your bridal party without her in it since there is so much to be done and they will need to play way in advance, but I would also give her a very special job if you guys do happen to makeup. She could help walk you down the isle, read a poem/prayer, or even make a speech.

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  • Jennifer
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    I agree with Mandi. You can't pause your life for the "what if's" of her feelings towards your family.

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