So tired...of wedding planning...

I can relate. I don't get why there are people that take a joyful occasion and turn it around so that the bride gets to the point that we no longer enjoy it and just want it to be here so we can be married. It is so frustrating, so I feel your pain. I hope all works smoothly for you for the next 26 days and if it has its kinks just remember that at the end you'll be married to the guy of your dreams

I was actually going to post to you today and ask if you were feeling "over it" yet, because I definitely am. I'm just over all of it. I want it to be 4:30pm on March 7th...I'll have a frozen drink in hand and the ship will be about to set sail for a week of relaxation! I keep asking FH if it's too late to just elope. At this point, I really just care more about the honeymoon than the wedding. So yeah, I can totally relate.

You too? I just want to get to the point and go on my honeymoon. Yes, I've also had the "Well, can Jane bring John?" Uh, is he on the invite and please tell me why I would want Jane's friend w/ a felony background at my wedding. Joy. I can totally relate.

You are hitting the wall, take a day and go somewhere quiet with the other half recharge and come back.

If your wedding planner is less than helpful you need to sit down with him/her and discuss what tehy are supposed to be doing. Family drama is a problem, but it is not your problem it is whoever has decided to have the drama attack, tell them to deal with it, politely if possible.

You can have somebody deal with the guest issue, simply say Sorry but the catering is set and we can not add anything at this late time. Perhaps you can draft your MOH for this or maybee the wedding coordinator... maybee not.

The bottom line is your wedding is a fun time, you are letting other peoples issues get on your nerves. Step back have a glass of wine/beer/ straight shot if its that bad. Take a day and relax. Come back and deal with these things the way they need to be delt with , quickly, efficiently so that they don't interfere with your wedding day.

Dear mandmglass: Do you have a person organizing your wedding? If not, get one or hire one (wedding planner). I know that this is an extra cost, but it worth getting it. You will get more rest and less headage.

Dear Arnaldo: If you READ her original post, she states that she does have a wedding coordinator, but that he/she is not being helpful.

Yes ma'am I do understand I was just venting on my post! I guess we all go through the same things!

Sorry by that, Rachel. If the person if not helpful, why don't she fire him? It is your money that is paying for this person. If the person is not his work then why throughting away her money.

Im so tired of the wedding planning and everything that comes with it that several times i have thought of just to cancel everything and just continue my life single. I just want my day to be over and done with and I will never ever plann something like a wedding again. I've had grandma drama, FH drama and a lot, Mother of the bride drama and a lot too its like the drama never ends. I thought planning a wedding was going to be happy times but since my plans started it hasent been at all.

Arnaldo, I wish we could fire her, but the church is providing her and we are required to use her to be married there. However, I dislike it because it gives her a sense of "job security" so she is not as professional as those who do it for a living. She is not being paid, but does it out of her own free time. We couldn't afford a real wedding planner anyways. Our meetings consist of her asking what I have or haven't done and by the end of it, I am very overwhellmed. The good thing is my MIL is stepping up and is taking care of most everything from here on out. And FH is a huge help as well. As of now I'm just trying to let the stress bounce off while still moving forward. It helps to know that I'm not alone though.

Mandmglass, it's kinda late in the game for you but at our church they require the use of one of our designated coordinators. That doesn't restrict you from hiring your own, it just means that whoever you hire just needs to touch bases with the church coordinator.

anyway, i have been threatening to put myself on a planning timeout. i'm really up to my ears but the list just seems to be never-ending. i have reached th epoint that i'm ready for it to be over and i still have 4 months to go!

Yeah I understand that. We did look into hiring our own but the ones in town charge at least $50 an hour. Go ahead and take a day off if you want...seems like a good idea to me!

I'm getting burned out too. I still have sewing projects to complete and I am getting tired of seeing green fabric. Then my step-dad keeps pestering me to sew some stuff for him knowing that I have my own stuff to do right now. FH and I got to working on favors this weekend so at least we got something accomplished.

Dawn, green is one of our wedding colors too. My dad is also upset with me because we're not having children at our wedding. He hasn't brought it up again, but I'm hoping he doesn't on the day of. We'll see how it goes. Fingers are crossed....

For me it seams like everything I do is wrong. Every decision I take about my life with my FH and about the wedding is wrong.

And im so fedup with that sometime i just want to desapear and never come back.

The quote i get from the decorator this week will determine whether or not i'll take a break lol.

I'm getting tired of planning too. Some days its fun and some days it frustrating with so many projects but I'm very independent and don't ask for much help b/c I like things the way I like them and want them my own way. I just want the day here already so I can relax and enjoy the married life!

I still have 3 months and I'm already tired of it. I've kinda stalled out a bit. Got the invites done but thats about it for this week and I need to be doing alot more

Oh man, yes I feel like that and I have 166 days to go! When I just checked my "days to go" this is the internal conversation I had "166! didn't I JUST get in to the 100s?!?!? oh man this can't be right...I have SOOOO much to do" lol. Can't imagine what I'll be like when I'm in your shoes. I just don't understand how some people enjoy wedding planning, guess it's just not my thing.