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So that Corona tho 👀?!?

Ericha, on March 10, 2020 at 9:05 PM Posted in Planning 0 17

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Soooo not to freak out too much but my wedding is May 9th and I’m scared that people will stop accepting and start sending their regrets that they can’t attend. We have a large handful of family that are older (including mine and my fiancé’s parents) who have serious health issues that if they are around those who are sick may turn out to be tragic. My fiancé’s dad is really really worried being in his late 80’s he’s not sure he wants to risk it for himself and his wife included. We live in Pennsylvania and our venue is there as well so there’s a bunch of cases here and they are beginning to shut a some things down. Me and my fiancé had a long conversation tonight about a plan b but honestly I don’t know what to do?? I just don’t want anyone to get I’ll on the account of our wedding. I would feel so guilty😩! What do you guys think?

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Kristen · on March 10, 2020 at 9:09 PM
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Honestly and maybe you do not want to hear this but I would not cancel a wedding (think of all the money and planning done) that close to because people may not be able to come.It sucks and of course you'll miss them but the day is about you two and not others. Maybe live stream the wedding if you want them to be able to see it. Maybe have a casual party later on for those that could not make it?
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Laura · on March 10, 2020 at 9:25 PM
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Mine is at the end of June and my mother said to hold off on the invites so people don't knee jerk regrets off the bat.
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Laura · on March 10, 2020 at 9:26 PM
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We are expecting few to no one at this rate. We'll get married anyway but I have to decide about sending in the big deposits. Sigh. I don't know...
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Kathryn · on March 10, 2020 at 9:30 PM
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Deep breaths girl! We're getting married in 25 days - April 4th! - and as of right now no one has sent me any declines. I know the virus is scary, but we can't stop living our lives because of a handful of cases. We even had a case in North Dallas, and I still expect most people to make the trip. You have to remember that it's good to be cautious but not panicked. Keep an eye on the news, see what happens, but don't change your plans unless there's a real reason. Just wash your hands and try not to panic about something you can't change. It'll be ok.
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Kelsey · on March 10, 2020 at 9:31 PM
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Geez. Ok I agree with Kristen. I would not be willing to lose my deposit. I so understand this is serious. But panicking isnt going to help the situation. Maybe you can live stream it.
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Liz · on March 10, 2020 at 9:33 PM
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End of June for me too. This really stinks. I didn’t spend a year of my life planning for this. I know everyone’s says it’s all about you and future husband being married but we’ve been together for 11 years for me it’s about sharing this with our family and friends. I would have went to city hall if I didn’t want to share my day. I’m not canceling, hoping for the best and if gets really bad and the venues cancel they’ll have to reschedule without loss of $$
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Nerissa · on March 10, 2020 at 9:40 PM
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We’re April 18 DW and not a single cancellation yet.
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Ericha · on March 10, 2020 at 9:41 PM
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Yeah you guys are right! I think my fiancé is gonna feel it out a couple more weeks to see what kind of responses we get as of right now we only like less than half who have accepted. It just really really sucks 😟. I’m legit praying things to start getting better I think live streaming it mighty be the way to go though if our venue can’t work with us but I think our contract allows for a refund for situations like this🤞🏾 We find out tomorrow what our options are just in case things escalate 😑 also I love the casual party after or maybe do something for everyone who missed it later when things get better. We shall see🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾
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Ericha · on March 10, 2020 at 9:41 PM
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So lucky!!!!
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Ericha · on March 10, 2020 at 9:46 PM
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Right that’s what I’m saying. I’ve devoted so much time in making our day perfect like it’s seriously annoying. But if rather they make the call and reschedule it than for me to make that call and end up outta all that money 🤷🏾‍♀️
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Kathryn · on March 10, 2020 at 9:50 PM
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I'd give it a few more weeks. A lot of my family didn't bother RSVP'ing. It's a lot of panicking rn - I work for a fairly large company I won't name, and they had a whole campus work remote Monday to test if their systems could take it - and a lot of self quarantining us going on. Which its good to be cautious at the moment, but I've planned too much not to go ahead.
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Ericha · on March 10, 2020 at 9:50 PM
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Very true!!!! And I’ve been washing my hands like crazy the last thing I want is to end up sick or get my fiancé or any one else sick with anything before my wedding
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Ericha · on March 10, 2020 at 9:54 PM
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Ok well that gives me some more hope that family just didn’t bother rsvping I’m hoping that’s what’s happening on my end lol maybe by giving a few more weeks we will get more information that may ease the panic
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Kathryn · on March 10, 2020 at 10:01 PM
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That's what I'm betting. Your family may be like mine and tossed the invitation onto the coffee table only to remember it way later. I'm not going to promise it'll get better, but you can wait and see before making any drastic plans. Right now everyone is kind of making knee jerk decisions and there's too much money involved to panic!
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Leslie · on March 11, 2020 at 12:28 AM
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My wedding is exact same day. Grandma who is 95 wants to come but we are not wanting her to travel. We haven’t gotten any no’s yet. Honestly we’re getting married either way. I’m just avoiding thinking about either of us in quarantine. My FH works at a hospital that has had cases. Whoever shows up shows up. It will be warm, and the virus should slow down I hope.
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Rebecca · on March 11, 2020 at 3:04 AM
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So, right now, things don't look great. However, you've got 2 months, so things can change super quickly.
Talk to your vendors, keep discussions open with your family, and don't make any hasty decisions.
Look into streaming the ceremony for those with health issues - even if there weren't a nasty virus circulating, they might not be able to come. DH and I had a cousin Facetime DH's grandpa, who was grounded due to a heart condition. The important thing was that he got to hear and see us say our vows.
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Melle · on March 12, 2020 at 5:44 PM
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I would just continue on with your wedding planning and whomever can come will come. Let whomever has health issues or who aren’t comfortable risking it, decide.
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