So over all of the planning

I had the exact same feelings as you. My husband told me the same thing and he was right. I would have regretted not having the wedding I wanted. I would say take a break of planning and just enjoy being engaged. Everyone will have an opinion on what you should do, but you and your fiance are the only ones whose opinions count. Once you have had a break, then yoh should handle solving these issues. If you and your fiance is happy with how the envelopes are addressed then do it that way. For your dress, they should hopefully be able to alter it unless it is way too small. In that case, it sounds like the wrong size was ordered and that is on the store to resolve the problem. It also sounds like the wrong size dresses were ordered by either the bridesmaids or the store depending on where they got them. The wedding is still far enough away that maybe they could exchange the dresses or return them and get dresses from somewhere else that do properly fit. As for meeting people at the wedding, there were people I had never met at my wedding. My husband has family that lives all over the country so I didn't get to meet all of them prior to the wedding. I think that is common if you have family spread out.

Since you’re paying for the wedding yourselves, I wouldn’t worry about people’s comments or who they think I should invite. Ultimately, it’s just chatter to ignore because their words don’t dictate your decisions. The only real concern I read had to do with the dress is not fitting. But don’t give energy to the rest of those topics, especially if it’s creating negative feelings about your wedding day.

I know it can be stressful. Hang in there and take a break when you need because in the end it really is a magical day

Unfortunately, nobody will ever be as excited as you are about your wedding. That's just reality. If you're feeling overwhelmed with the number of opinions you are getting, maybe it's time to stop telling people the details. You and FH should be planning this wedding, and only your opinions matter! It's nice to bounce things off people, and say "hey, what do you think?" But if the end result is that you're stressed out and overwhelmed because nobody agrees with your choices, then it's time to stop telling the details!!!! They will get over it, most likely when they show up to your wedding and see that it's beautiful and perfect!!

The less you tell, the fewer comments/opinions you will get.

I also agree with PPs that it may be time for you to take a break from planning. It doesn't have to be a long break. Just stop worrying about it for awhile. Then you can come back to it fresh and ready to go!

View Quoted Comment The thing is I never asked anyone opinions. People keep asking us how much were spending on stuff, what color dresses are, etc. I'm about to just stop answering questions. I also got grief for how the envelopes were being addressed because I had FH call his mom to ask some addresses and she said we weren't addressing the envelopes "properly". But yeah I'm done talking to people about wedding stuff unless it's my bridesmaids or my mom because they're the only people who's opinions I value

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I understand. Unfortunately, you don't have to "ask" for opinions to get them. Once people find out your are planning a wedding, the opinions (unsolicited) start pouring in. And I feel that asking anyone what they are spending is extremely rude. If I got that question, I would straight up tell them it's none of their business--because it isn't. But not everyone is able to stand up t rude people like that. Try getting familiar with phrases like, "thanks for your input, I'll think about that," and "gee we haven't made a decision on that yet, thanks for asking," or "we really want those details to be a surprise for our guests." These are all polite ways to basically blow off anyone who is insistent on telling you what they think--whether you've asked or not. Keep the details to yourself. As for FHs mom, and her opinion, blow it off. Let it go. It's not worth stressing over. You are allowed to address your envelopes any way you want. What is she, the envelope police? lol

I've already said "this is going to be the most stressful year of my life!" and everyone is like "you're getting married this year, it should be the best year of your life!" and I'm like "well yall aren't having to plan all this!"

I am SO READY to be done with this planning and whole wedding honestly.

I'm sure i'll look back on it and think it's amazing and I know I'll be happy that I planned all this and made these choices but it literally hurts my brain to care about what the groomsmen wear or what color napkins we have or if the invitations match the save the dates.

View Quoted Comment Right!! Like I just hate having to care about stupid little things that know none of my guests will care about lol

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I agree! Or like I spent SO MUCH TIME finding a save the date, ran them past a few people, ordered them, they sat in my closet for a month, and then ALL OF A SUDDEN my grandma was like "I don't really like this font"

WHYYY would you tell me?! haha. it's done! they're here! i'm not gonna change them!