Hi All! Have you ever been invited to a wedding where your SO is in the wedding party and you are not? How do you know what you are supposed to attend? There is a lot of gray area for me for example the rehearsal dinner, do I attend? Is there an official invite for that?
It is my fiancé’s sister’s wedding and he is the best man and I will be her future SIL but i’m not in the wedding. We’ve known each other for 3 years and live in close proximity. I asked their mom (my FMIL) and she doesn’t know the answer. I talked to a counselor that just told me to straight up ask his sister what her expectations are of me. I feel ackward doing that though. Just curious is there etiquette for communicating to the wedding party if SO’s are alooud at rehearsal dinner ? Or is this just an assumed thing?
I realize that most of the wedding will be me playing it by ear on what I am and am not including in, there are a whole slew of things. I might not have dinner with my fiancé, i might not be in any of the pictures with the photographer, etc. etc. I want to not seem rude that I am including or not including myself. If I am distant I might seem uninterested and if I am too close I might not be permitted and seem disrespectful. My strategy will be to try to be social with other people the best I can to pass the time and if they want to include me hopefully someone will let me know instead of saying why is she being distant and weird. We should be all family at this point but not everyone has the same feelings towards each other, and I am 100% sure that she is so busy (planning a very quick time frame wedding)that she hasn’t stopped to think how she could include her future SIL, but again she might not want to include me. Our wedding we will be including her and giving her special recognition and she be in pictures but understand this might not be a reciprocal thing.