So nobody RSVPs anymore... Wording?

I would hold off composing an email. You still have some time. The number of missing RSVPs might be a lot smaller by then.

And I think you should reach out personally with a text or phone call over an email.

I feel you. My bridesmaids have offered to help call the unaccounted for when the time comes. Portuguese culture just isn't used to doing that... No one else rsvpd for my shower even though they are all coming so I already know what to expect for the wedding.

We only have 30 missing but I'm trying to think of the wording of this too, because I don't want it to come off as passive aggressive as it probably will. Some people I can be like "Hey! Are you going to be able to make it? We haven't gotten your rsvp yet!" but the other's are people i'm not-so-familiar with (FH's family) so I'm not sure how to tell him to reach out ot them..

I agree with NJBride, you still have 2 weeks..many people wait until the last minute to send back. People that you talk to regularly, just casually slip it into conversation. The others, reach out individually. Something short, sweet, and to the point. "Just wanted to follow up really quickly and see if you were planning on attending our wedding next month. Please let me know when you can."

I got a good 20-30 RSVPs the last 2 weeks before our deadline. I would give it time. Some people I bugged via Facebook bc they are close friends and didn't feel bad about it, but I'd hold off until a few days after your deadline. Fingers crossed they all come in!

Yea I would wait. We hit a 2 week slow down. They just started picking back up.

Yea....I so don't miss this part of wedding planning.

Ugh i've been struggling not to text our guests and just asking! our deadline is this Friday and we still haven't heard from 30! I'm letting FH text his own friends and I'll handle mine to avoid the weirdness. I think most people totally assume you know though.

I would definitely wait until after your RSVP date! People could be sending them in at the last minute

FutureMrsTex, we invited quite a few people to my shower and literally 1 person RSVPd...and it was a no! Why has it become okay to make people pay for you whether you're coming or not??

I know that you're really supposed to call each person individually, but there's EIGHTY of them left!! I made a FB status a few weeks ago that mentioned briefly how the RSVPs had stopped coming in hopes that it would spur some more replies, but I didn't get anything at all.

I'm not sending anything out until right before the deadline. Like what Laura Marie said, I'm working on wording so I don't come across offensive. People are so easily annoyed that I'm spending some extra time trying to find the perfect way to tell them to send back their F-ING replies. I don't want to be stuck with 50 unanswered RSVPs come my wedding day.

I used the room block deadline as a hint for those who haven't RSVPed. The room block deadline was 5 days after the RSVP deadline, so on the RSVP deadline I emailed everyone who I knew didn't have a room to remind them and express our hope to share the day with them. It worked; we got a lot of RSVPs back right after

We were missing about a 1/3 of our RSVPs by the due date. We are now a week overdue and only missing 7 out of 288. We had 90 missing that RSVP'ed the 2 days before and 2 days after the due date. I would hold off for an email. We had a lull waiting too, some week we got a lot, some weeks very few. If you gave yourself enough time between the due date and final numbers due you should be fine.

I contacted people individually and it went something like this

"Hey (insert rude guest's name here)! I wanted to follow up on the invitation you should have received for Jim and I's wedding later this month. I haven't received your RSVP yet so I wanted to follow up to make sure you received the invitation! If possible, please let me know ASAP whether you can make it or not. You can send your card back, or just let me know your meal choice and I will mark you down. Really hope to see you there!"

ETA - to Laura's point...there was a list of people I gave to my mom or FMIL to reach out to as well.

I agree with all the ladies, calling would be better and you can have your mom or friends to help you call so your not doing all of it on your own. you would get a respond alot quicker than e-mailing and you are certain to get a response back and not just an ignore.

I know how you feel no one in my church and family has ever done an rsvp, it has always been a thing where the whole church is invited and people bring other people that don't ecen know the couple so I am not excited about the RSVP's either x)

I would wait until after your due date to call them and personally speak with them. Breathe it will all turn out the way it is supposed to be.

I would wait... I of course got a few responses the day the were due and the day after. We did have to start calling people- especially OOT guests- because we forgot about our hotel deadline being a month before- and our RSVP date was two weeks after the hotel block was being released. I know we were able to get more responses a little faster because of these calls. If you have a hotel block a gentle reminder to book a room is helpful.

If they don't reply, just invite all the Phx Social ladies and their men instead. We would all make awesome guests.

When do you HAVE to have final count numbers to your venue?

I have about 2.5 weeks left to my deadline, (August 31st), and we only got about half of our RSVPs back. I think we're in that slump period, as we've gotten one back in the last week and a half.

I did post a "reminder" on FB and I'm kind of glad I did, as I learned my brother and his wife and my one niece sent theirs back the middle of July and I still haven't gotten them, so obviously they got lost in mail transit.