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So much to do so little time

Amina, on November 26, 2019 at 4:09 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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Have 45 days left til the big day and I feel like I still have so much to do. FH is finally stepping up to help get some stuff ironed out but I wish more family/ wedding party members would ask how planning is going or offer to help with any last min DIY projects. I’m really not the type of person to ask for help but I could really use some right now. Most of my wedding party I feel like has more important things going like raising young babies, family crisis, completing their PhD, hectic work schedules, and just life in general that I rarely hear from them. I could really use someone to vent to about wedding stress and someone else to bounce wedding ideas off of besides only FH and I don’t have anyone right now. I try to connect with my girls for FaceTime and wine dates but something else always comes up and I feel really alone. Any encouraging words to get through the last 45 days of crazy until the best day ever would be greatly appreciated!

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Latest activity by Jocelyn, on November 26, 2019 at 7:20 PM

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Cristy · on November 26, 2019 at 4:30 PM
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Ok, first, breathe!!! Deep breaths. You won't do yourself any good if you're stressed out to the max, so try to bring it down.
I find lists are very helpful. Make a list of everything that still needs doing. Then break it up into the days you have left. One or two things per day, and you should be good to go. Or, if you can give some of the to-do list to FH, so much the better!
I know this is crunch time, and it must seem like your list is endless!! It's also really hard when the people in your life are so busy with their own lives, you can feel forgotten. But I'm sure your people are in your corner. They may not realize how stressed out you're getting. But it sounds like you need some time away from wedding planning--even just a couple of hours--to recharge and get motivated!!
Try doing something that relaxes you. For me, that would be a hot bath and a book. Or, a book on the couch with a cup of hot chocolate. For you it may be binge-watching a couple episodes of your favorite tv show. It can be anything, as long as it's not wedding related, and will help relax you. You need to take time for yourself, so you're not a stressed out mess!
I'm sorry I don't have a magical answer for you. Just remember why you're doing all of this, and give yourself the time you need to recharge. You got this girl!!
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Cyndy · on November 26, 2019 at 4:44 PM
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Amen to what Cristy said above. Try to breathe through this. Unfortunately everyone isn’t as excited or free to help but you will get through it. I planned my entire wedding alone in 10 weeks and felt very alone and beyond stressed. I found things to do like she said above to relax. Read a book with a glass of wine or something and give yourself permission to not think about the wedding for a day or so. Make those lists and check them off and maybe take a few things off that don’t matter like favors or programs, etc. People won’t notice nearly as much as you think they will. At the end of the day you will marry the love of your life and this will all be behind you. Good luck.
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Melle · on November 26, 2019 at 6:04 PM
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that's what ww is here for. We are excited about all things weddings so you can vent or seek advice here!
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Barbara · on November 26, 2019 at 6:16 PM
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I agree with what everyone has stated. Lists do help and as your crossing items off your list you see the progress your making and a shorter to do list. You can bounce ideas off of others on this site. It may help you. Stepping away from planning for a day or to an taking time for yourself is important. Maybe taking a long walk while listening to your favorite music, or window shopping.
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Jocelyn · on November 26, 2019 at 7:20 PM
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I'm 17 days away with a ton left to do. I work two jobs and barely get 3 days off a month,especially this month I had two days off and worked every day pretty much. Take a breather and start making lists like stated and pick days to accomplish stuff. That's the only way I got even close to being ready, was planning out task on certain days I knew I would have time after work or before. I haven't had much help either by family or my maid of honor. I don't like to ask either so I did a lot my self with my FH helping as much as he can since he is not crafty lol Remember anything that goes wrong the guest wont know and wont see on the wedding day. I fond myself nit picking and have to remind myself my guest wont notice a tiny flaw. You got this.
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