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Samantha
Savvy October 2020

So many questions

Samantha, on August 26, 2020 at 7:35 PM Posted in Planning 0 16
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I just typed for a while, left the app to get pictures and it refreshed and deleted everything I typed. 😶😑
So here goes again.

We are getting married on 10-16-2020. Ceremony at 430. Reception to follow.
Colors are: Malibu blue, black/gray, white/ivory. Ceremony and reception are at our church. We will actually use the auditorium, fellowship hall, and gym for the actual wedding/guest.
Guest count is: 110 guest.
Food: local BBQ restaurant delivering food (chicken bites, pulled pork, green beans, mashed potatoes/gravy, macaroni and cheese and rolls. With like 5 kinds of sauce and drinks)
Drinks: sweet tea, unsweet tea, and pink lemonade.
Cake: Publix (local grocery store that makes yummy cake 😋) 2 tier cake with about 80 cupcakes that will be half chocolate and half vanilla (not mixed together)
Church: baptist church in Northeast Florida.
No alcohol can be served at all. (Baptist church in the south....) which me and FH are perfectly fine with because we don’t drink.
- dancing is “iffy” right now. We asked the pastor about having 3 dances (father/daughter, mother/son, first dance) but guest wouldn’t be dancing. To which our pastor said he didn’t see a problem with it was he would have to double check. How do we set up the gym for the reception with only us probably being “allowed” to dance?
- do we need servers for the food/cake? Or can people just serve themselves? Food will probably be set up in the fellowship hall, buffet style.
- we have to supply plates/flatware/napkins? We are thinking just getting ones from sams club/BJ’s/Costco (we have memberships at all 3 and they are close to us) which ones should we buy? Where do we set them up at? At each place setting or at the start of the food line?
- bouquet toss? I’m making the bouquets (pictures below) should I “throw” one? Also, no garter toss.
- assigned seating? Assigned tables? Letting people seat themselves? With reserved tables for us and close family (parents, grandparents, my great grandmother)
- photo booth for guest to have fun at between ceremony and reception while we have pictures done? A couple “instax” camera with tape and a photo album for people to wright in. Background/props? Should I try be done? We will have a wooden sign from hobby lobby for the actual guestbook.
- remembering those who have passed? We have a sign that says something along the lines of “we know you would be here today if heaven wasn’t so far away” with candle holders. We are thinking of having this set up in the gym with pictures of the ones we are remembering. And in the ceremony having a rose or something on a chair for them?
- kids table? There will be 6-10 kids. 3 of which are in the wedding. If we have a kids table should we have a table near it reserved for the parents? What activities should the table have if we have a kids table?
- did we miss anything?
Pictures below are: diy bouquets. Flower girl dress Ring bearers (there’s 2) outfits My dress And wedding favors. So many questions 1
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Latest activity by Samantha, on September 2, 2020 at 10:00 PM
  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Thanks in advance for anything y’all share. And sorry for the long post.
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  • J
    Master October 2022
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    With Covid underway, definitely have servers instead of people serving themselves. Same for cake and beverages.


    Assigned tables are a must. Let them pick the seat. Otherwise families and always get split up, and an older grandma will save 2-3 seats for someone who doesn't even sit with her and she won't give them up for anything.
    Costco plates and silverware is fine. Have silverware and napkins on the tables and plates at the head of the buffet. Make sure there are enough for a clean plate eat time through.
    Bouquet toss and garter toss are optional. Please don't bully anyone into participating if they choose not to.
    Guests love to mingle given the opportunity.
    No idea about memorial tributes. Those are personal and everyone has their own take.
    Seat children with parents.
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  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2020
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    Thank you! That’s kind what we were thinking with the food and such.
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  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2020
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    Another question that I forgot.
    Where do we put the wooden guestbook sign? The entrance of the church or the entrance to the gym where the reception is? It’s down the hall from the ceremony.
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    Master October 2022
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    The entrance to the reception. Also be aware that even with an attendant, maybe only half your guests will sign.
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  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2020
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    Thank you again!
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  • Sherri
    Devoted August 2020
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    Yes servers.
    I'd place the cutlery and plates at each table spot. So guests aren't touching everyone else's when they grab theirs. Even if it's individually wrapped, I feel like it's less risk when placed at their own table spot. They pick it up and take it with them.
    How many singles will be there to catch your bouquet?Definitely assigned tables. Backdrops and props make a photo booth so much more fun! How little are the kids. You know them best if they'd be shy or need a parents help to eat. I'm suggest with the parents but maybe set up a small coloring table <white craft paper all over the table and box of crayons> for them to later gather at.
    Good luck. Have fun! 👰🏼💍🎉
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  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2020
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    I don’t there would be too many singles, just my grandma keeps mentioning the bouquet toss..... and kids are ages 3-9ish. And thank you for the advice. That’s kinda what we were thinking.
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    Super October 2020
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    Okay, so I am gonna help with each individual question for you hopefully. Btw awesome job it sounds like you have a lot planned out!!

    That's awesome colors and really nice for your church to have the ceremony and reception at!!

    Is there an area that you all will be dancing in if allowed? I would if you have had the MC or DJ or whomever kind of announce that unfortunately dancing is not really allowed due to COVID but we will only do three dances kind of thing.

    Because of everything going on I would defiantly have servers or if you can do without buffet-style do plated dinner. Then germs are not going everywhere too much.

    If you are having the servers you can ask the question of providing your own napkins, utensils, etc. Sometimes churches and serving companies have them already. I would research it. If you need to provide them I would go to the place that is the cheapest for the quantity or quality if you want. If you have servers I would have them have the plates and utensils to be able to hand the plate with utensils may be rolled up in the napkin to be handed to the guest.

    Are you having a bouquet toss? If so then I would make one. Then you can keep the one you made for memories if you want to. You did a great job on the bouquet you already made!! Understandable with the garter toss....... I am so not comfortable with that LOL

    We are doing assigned seating because I want to make sure my family gets places closer to us rather than my co-workers. I am making escort cards but not the exact space in which they will be occupying. If you want to do reserved seating that is an option too. You can make a board or escort cards if you would like. It's up to you what you would like to do.

    We are doing a photo booth and have an attendant who is sanitizing EVERYTHING before people go in there as well as keeping the limit of people to four at a time. So it's up to you if you want someone there sanitizing things and making sure people are not crowding the area. You can certainly have props from the Dollar store or make your own from the craft stores as well as the backdrop. Make sure to get lots of sheets for the camera because that will run out faster than you think!!

    For the ones who have passed, I think that's an awesome idea maybe having a picture of them? Also, you can do it solely for the reception if you want or you can do both for the ceremony and reception like you said with a picture of them in the chair or a rose or something like that? Up to you! I think that's a lovely idea to do either or, or both!!

    For kiddos, I would recommend if you have a kids table to have fun little activities for them to do ie: puzzles, coloring books, maybe little toys, or wood blocks, lego type things, or books to read?? I have a puzzle and coloring books as well as a goodie bag of candy for them. Defiantly put the parents near them because they may need to help them with food or something like that. You can pick stuff up at the Dollar store or online.

    Signs? The pillow or box for the ring bearer? The basket for the flower girl? Do you want a send-off method ie: bells, glow sticks, sparklers? Do you have any out of town guests that you would like to send a little something to them in their hotel room? Have you picked out colors for the guys to wear besides the ring bearer? Do you want pew bows or anything to line the aisle? How about programs? Do you have your dress, veil, shoes, jewelry ready? Do you want real flowers for anything like the aisle or the centerpieces? What are your centerpieces?

    You did such an awesome job on the DIY stuff!! Looks really good!! Sorry if you have already all the stuff I asked above I am just getting the ideas to flow to hopefully help if there's something that you can think of that you want!

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  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2020
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    Thank you so much for replying! And for all the info!! And the ideas!!
    If we are allowed to dance we would dance in the gym. Because I’m thinking we wouldn’t use the whole gym so we would have some space to do the 3 dances. I haven’t even thought about who would announce anything lol 😬😅 As far as servers go, I was thinking of asking a few ladies from the church if they would help serve food if need be (which sounds like it is need be)...... For seating, I like the idea of having reserved tables for like family but I don’t like the idea of telling people where the sit specifically (an assign seat) but kinda like the idea of having people go to a specific table so that I know my family and friends will be able to sit together and be comfortable where they sit. I hope that made sense. (Kinda leaning towards having assigned tables but not telling people the exact seat to sit in) For the seating, if we do assigned tables would we do like a board and then just put everyone’s names on it and the table numbers that they go to? (I.e. “John smith table : 4 and so on)That makes sense about the kids too. Let them have somewhere where they can do their thing but the parents are close enough to keep an eye on them. (They’re all cousins to each other so they get along pretty well)
    As for signs and such, I will probably be getting those next week or so. Out of town guest are either staying with close family (I.e. my aunt and her family stay with my grandma every time they come to FL) or are only coming for the day (because it’s about 90 minutes from where they are to the wedding and they make it all the time for family stuff) FH is wearing a blue shirt with a black or gray vest and nice jeans. and the best man is going to wear a white shirt with a vest and nice jeans too. I have my dress (pick it up from alterations on Sept. 10th!! 😁😁), veil and shoes (converses). As for jewelry I don’t wear any like ever so I’m probably not going to wear any lol. As for aisle decorations and centerpieces, I’ll attach pictures of what I’m thinking of doing with a little extra greenery/flowers. Flowers are all going to be fake from hobby lobby. So many questions 6So many questions 7
    ⬆️⬆️Kinda a mix of these two things for the aisle and centerpieces. Do we need programs?
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    Super October 2020
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    You're welcome of course! That's why we are here!!

    Yeah, that makes sense you could designate just a little area like 15 feet by 15 feet maybe for the dance area? Maybe by the bleachers (if they have any) The reception is happening in the gym as well? Maybe having someone announce things through a speaker system or if they have one already might work well so then people know oh time for food or time for cake or cocktail hour kind of thing you know? That would be a good idea just because of things right now its little ehhhh you know? You can certainly do that! That's what I am doing is putting specific people together at a table but not exactly saying this seat in particular. I have a board with the escort cards that will say table 1: John Smith, Mary Rose, etc. I have seen many different kinds of boards or holders in a sort for names at tables. I would go on Pinterest and see seating charts/boards. For your "theme" you could do a huge window with names, or a board with picture frames, or a mirror with the names too! There's a lot of ideas to make one. Let me know if you need more help with that! I have plenty of ideas! LOL Don't forget the table numbers if you do the kind of "assign" seating thing! That's good that the kiddos get along! I have seen so really interesting fights between kids when they are not related LOL

    You can create a lot of signs to help people feel more comfortable and know where to go too! They don't have to be big and crazy and stuff. That's good they are close! Maybe doing a thank you card to those who housed the people from out of town? Good, you've got the guys attire down!! Whoo-hoo on your dress YAY!!! That's awesome your look is good then!! I love that you are doing converse!! Well, it's up to you if you want to wear jewelry for this occasion or not but I bet you'll look perfect in whatever you choose!! Those are perfect!! So pretty!! They should be pretty easy to replicate if you are wanting for them to look like the picture! Well, there you go!! You don't need programs I was just asking if that was something you wanted. Is there anything in particular in the ceremony that you want to be noted? Because you could always do a big sign on a palet or another mirror or picture frame with the break down of the ceremony.

    Are you having a cake topper?? Have you kind of thought of vows if you are doing them?? Any music that you are wanting for specific parts?? Did you want to put cute little baskets in the restrooms for the ladies to "freshen up" and for the men to make sure they are good?? DONT FORGET TO GET YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE!! LOL Idk how long it takes for where you are but don't forget to apply for it!! Also, I would make the "day of bag". This tends to have things like extra bobby pins, hair things, extra lipstick makeup type things, phone charger, first aid kit, maybe a sewing kit, breath mints, the rings, etc. things you know you will need the day of and extra for those "just in case" moments!! Any toasts you are wanting to do? Any readings at the ceremony? Oh photography?? Do you have a list of poses you want??

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  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2020
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    Thank you!
    The ceremony is going to be on the auditorium of the church and the reception is going to be on the gym (large open area type no seating unless you set up tables). I think the church has a speaker/mic that can be set up in the gym (they’ve used one for dinner on the grounds type things at church) so I can see if we can have that set up too.
    And all that makes sense! We actually just made a table assignments like an hour ago so when I go shopping later this week I can find things for the chart. We have people that we think will get along (ie they work together or are families, etc) sitting together and then a separate table (or two) for the kids, which will have little things for them to do and they’ll be sat near the parents (which are all are the same table too). I’m thinking of asking my best friend (my MOH) sister if she would do our makeup because she is awesome at it! Publix is supplying the cake topper (silver fancy hearts) and we just got our marriage license yesterday actually! We’re probably going to work on vows and music this upcoming week. We have to meet with the pastor to make sure which songs we can play and which ones we can’t. He’s pretty cool about stuff but we have to make sure we “follow the rules” of the church. Thank you for the ideas of the “day of bag”! And I know about my dress! It’s just below my knee and I’ll have a blue ribbon belt too and so will the flower girl. We’re going to order our rings next week, hopefully! From northernroyal.com they are nice. And thank you. I’m thinking of putting the table numbers on the glass jars that are going to be the centerpieces with either paint or a chalkboard sticker with the numbers.
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    There you go!! That will work perfectly then!! YAY!! Awesome!! It sounds like you are done for the most part. I am racking my brain to figure out if there is anything else that if you wanted to you could. I know there will be but I just can't think of anything else right now! LOL Yeah, you should ask!! You could see if you like it too since you have time to do a trial and see if you like something in particular! That's awesome that they are supplying the fancy hearts for the cake topper!! Well YAY!!! Sounds like everything is falling into place and it sounds like you guys are good to go!! YAY!!! I am so excited for you!! You should post pictures of everything!! I love to see stuff!! I need to do that!! LOL

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  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2020
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    This is the cake we’re getting (just with about 80 cupcakes) So many questions 8
    And we meet this week with our pastor to go over some stuff and then we’re going decorations shopping with my grandma. And when I’m done with my bouquet I’ll take a picture of it too.
    We’ve done most of the stuff ourselves (vista print invitations, diy favors and bouquets, and our friends isn’t charging us that much for our pictures)
    And I know. I’m so glad everything is falling into place so far. 🙌🙌
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    Oh wow!!! That's beautiful!!! So elegant and pretty!! YAY!!! that's good everything is falling into place and I'm glad you guys have been able to do everything yourself!! Awesome job!!

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  • Samantha
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    Thank you!! I will try to add pictures as I finish things/after we get married. Thank you so much for all the ideas!
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