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Champion July 2019

So mad

Veronica, on September 4, 2019 at 11:49 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 19
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My sister was my maid of honor in my wedding and the Monday before my wedding I went and bought her a new dress and had it shipped with one day shipping to her house. It cost me about $250 to do so. I just found out from our seamstress that my sister got a cigarette burn in the dress and hide it from me on my wedding day. My entire family and sil knew. My sil used pins to pin the bottom of the dress to try to hide the burn. I'm so upset that I went out of my way to buy my sister a different dress because the original dress didn't fit her properly and she was uncomfortable in it only for her to damage the dress then keep it from me. She also asked my family not to tell me so I just found out. I haven't looked at all of my photos yet nor have I gotten my wedding video so I am hoping it is not noticeable. I just don't understand how my sister could be so irresponsible to be smoking in her car with the dress in the back seat. She claims that she is the one that did it and not her boyfriend. She says she went to throw the cigarette out the car window and instead of it going out the window it landed in the back seat where the dress was. She asked the seamstress if anything could be done, but it was the night before the wedding so there really wasn't anything she could do. I can't believe my sister right now. Crossing my fingers it isn't noticeable in the photos or video.

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Latest activity by Naikesha, on September 7, 2019 at 9:29 PM
  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    This isn't worth being upset about. You didn't even know the day of and it was an accident. Let it go.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    I don’t understand why this would be upsetting. We’re you planning on selling it afterwards?

    She knew it would upset you. She took care of the issue so you wouldn’t have to worry. You didn’t notice on your wedding day. Accidents happen.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    Agreed. Lots of things go wrong the day of that the bride and groom may not be aware of, and it's no use getting upset about it after the fact if you had no idea.
    Even if it is noticeable in photos, I'm sure that's something that can be photoshopped out easily.
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  • C
    Devoted June 2019
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    Agree with PPs. I think it was considerate of her to ask others to keep it from you because it’s not what you needed to focus on that day. All of your attention should’ve been on the important stuff.....let it still be there.
    Was it her brightest move to throw a cigarette out the window - no of course not - but there’s no value in going back and stressing over it now. My guess is, if you didn’t notice it that day, you won’t notice it in the pictures.
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
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    Its pretty disgusting that she threw a lit cigarette out the car window... That is the only thing I would really be mad at honestly .

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  • Jordan
    Expert September 2019
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    I understand being annoyed, but if you didn't notice it can't be that bad. Also, there's nothing that can be done about it now so I'd just let it go.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I'm sure it isn't noticeable if you didn't see it in person or in any pictures so far, and if they pinned it up. It does suck she didn't take good care of the dress, but would you really want her to tell you & to cause stress to you on your wedding day? Everyone makes mistakes, so this probably isn't worth stressing over.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    If you didn't notice it the day of, I doubt you'll notice in photos/videos Smiley smile

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  • V
    Champion July 2019
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    I am most upset that everyone kept it from me. I am a firm believer that if something is going to affect me then I need to know about it. If I had known, I would have asked my mil if she had time to alter it rather than just pin it. I can only imagine how the dress smelled since she was smoking with it in the car.
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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
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    I might be a little annoyed too, but I don't think this is worth being legitimately upset or mad over. She made a mistake, made sure you weren't bothered with it on the day of your wedding, and realistically something that small (also depending on the color of the dress) might not even be noticeable in the pictures. If it wont matter in five years, don't let it bother you for more than five minutes.

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I can see being annoyed, but I agree with PP's, I think you're letting yourself be more angry about this than it's worth. If you didn't notice the whole day, I doubt you'll be able to notice in pictures. Honestly, I would rather not be told the day of my wedding about something like that, I would just want it handled so I don't have to worry about it.

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    But it didn’t affect you. You didn’t even notice it. Assuming you were standing close to her during pictures and the wedding, I’m sure you would have noticed if the dress smelled.
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    But this affects you in no way. You clearly didn't notice the burn or smell the dress. You're making a big deal out of literally nothing.

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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
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    That was my thought too. I live in California and that is how a lot of our fires are started. Not only is it littering but it is potentially dangerous too.

    OP, let it go. There is literally nothing you can do.

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  • Nicole
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    I agree with others, it's not worth being upset over this. She did the right thing by keeping it from you on the day of, i'm sure you had other things on your mind.


    I doubt you'll notice in the photos Smiley heart don't stress it

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  • Heather
    Expert August 2020
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    I think you’re overreacting right now. Look at how upset you are, and imagine if your sister told you what happened the day of your wedding - this is exactly why she kept it from you. You had enough on your plate that day. I’m sure she feels bad about it, but accidents happen. Only you know for sure if she’s normally careless with things like this, but let it go. It’s over and done with, you can’t change it.
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
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    It really shouldn't surprise me. She tends to cause problems at every family event. She has ruined parties before which was why she wasn't originally my maid of honor My original maid of honor stepped down and my sister said she wanted to be maid of honor so I trusted that she could handle it and my sil ended up helping do stuff rather than my sister.
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  • Devoted December 2019
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    It definitely stinks that she didn’t take care of what you bought her, but it sounds like an honest mistake. You didn’t notice day of, you didn’t smell anything day of, it wasn’t obvious day of. Just let it go. It’s already done. Don’t go looking for it in pictures, you’ll just get yourself upset for no reason. The main pictures you’ll likely display in your home will be of you and your husband, so your MOH’s dress doesn’t matter.
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  • Naikesha
    Super September 2020
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    Although it was very irresponsible of her let it go as you had a great wedding and had no idea there was an issue.
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