So I have to plan my FH bachelor party!? - rant

SO I took matters into my own hands and I guess I PLAN it and my uncle who is a groomsmen is gonna help. My FH deserves to do something and his best man isnt doing anything so I guess I WILL!!!

Best man needs to get straightened out.

Guys can be so dramatic sometimes I swear.

Yeah. if they're not that close, he probably shouldn't be best man. not that I think you should drop a friend over this, but if this is in general how he acts.. .

If its a party thrown for him he doesn't call the shots. That's like planning your own surprise birthday party, it sounds like the groomsmen was willing to do a small thing but didnt want some over the top elaborate thing ( bachelor parties are usually for super close friends which is usually the bridal party) personally talking him down i think is beyond rude. You should be grateful he offered in the first place or that he's standing In your wedding

Best man shouldn't even be his best man and I think he is starting to realize that!

No he offered but he doesn't want to do anything at all. He hasn't even contacted anyone about anything or planned ANyTHiNg. He always tells my FH hell hang out or do this or that or whatever and always dicks him over, never calls him back. There's more to it then this

If you told me you were calling the shots for a party I was throwing I'd probably throw in the towel too and say clearly you've got this

The best mans job is to show up

The wedding day in a tux... Not to do whatever he is told to do... Brides seem to forget this. Be thankful he's in your wedding and stop calling him names...

Good for you. my fh and I are planning our own because I'm not having bridesmaids and his best man isn't exactly the brightest bulb on the Christmas tree. we want to play laser tag bride vs groom, then go to separate planned activities

Douche nozzle? lol. That cracked me up.

Now, on the other hand, you will probably plan an awesome bachelor party I think your FH is lucky to have you!

Yes but It's not like I'm up his ass I don't talk to him at all! Haven't talked to him at all either. He offered to do the bachelor party but he is telling my FH there are limits on things that doesn't even make sence everybody pays for themselves so why would he put a limit on it I can understand if my FH invited 30 people but no he asked 15 which are groomsmen and CLOSE family. My uncle said he hasn't heard anything for the Bach party and neither has any of the other guys. He should have reached out by now to everyone. hE told my FH he was planning it for June 2014. WE'RE getting married in feb!!!!

And I'm not saying he's a bad guy or a bad person but jeeze. This is FH big day if you say your gonna plan a Bach party then do it! Not complain about every detail!

Cut him out and give FH the party he wants. eff him. he's lucky if he gets a frikkin invite. dushe.

So frustrating! This happened with a wedding where I was a BM. Two of the four BMs (myself included) lived quite a distance from the wedding so months in advance we decided on a date that we could all be in town for. Then as time passed, the MOH wasn't taking any initiative. Myself and another BM tried to get the ball rolling and start planning things. MOH still didn't seem interested so we divided up the tasks to make sure things got done. Then maybe two weeks before the bachelorette, the MOH tells us she can't make that date... It's too late to change the date because we can't change our flights and the bride had already booked time off work, so we had to do it without her and she joined us the next day for breakfast and an activity. I don't think the bride was very thrilled, but what are you gonna do. Go on with your plans and I hope FH enjoys his day! You can't force people to be a part of it unfortunately.

I think it is definitely the best mans job to plan the bachelor party. In fact I think that is a huge part of his role, along with the groomsmen. And your FH should be able to invite as many people as he wants. How hard is it to figure out transportation for 15 guys. Sorry to hear the best man is not stepping up to the task. Maybe FH can ask another groomsmen to take over the planning?