So few Rsvps :(

I don’t think it’s that people want to come. I think it’s that they don’t know yet. Your wedding is still 3 months away. That’s really early to be asking for rsvps.

You’re rsvp deadline is really early. Most people don’t get the calendar for days off at work til the new year. You’re asking them to send an rsvp for 2 months before your wedding. Typically invites don’t get sent til 6 weeks prior to the wedding date.

First, if your RSVP date isn't till mid-November, that's still a full month away, so I'd just try to be patient. You told people to let you know by mid-November, so it's pretty likely a fair number of them will comply -- eventually. Also, compared to a more typical schedule, you sent your invitations REALLY early, and your RSVP date is VERY early (for comparison, Daughter's wedding was 1/19/19, and her RSVP date was 12/25/18, and her invitations only went in the mail 11/26/18). People may not have any idea three months in advance if they'll be able to attend a January wedding, or they may have looked at the date and thought, "that's not till next year; I'll deal with it later." Unfortunately, what you're experiencing is often the result when invitations go out too early. All you can do now is be patient and wait until your RSVP date has passed. Then you can start following up with people. I don't think you need to be sad; I just think you need to adjust your expectations regarding the time table you've tried to impose on your guests. Good luck!

Why did you send your invitations so early, and why is your RSVP date so early? You are going to have trouble getting RSVPs back because your date is too early - people don't know in November if they can attend a January wedding.

You have plenty of time. Your RSVP’s are due really early and that might be tough for people to commit that early.

The majority of our RSVPs came in the last week. Also your timeline is extremely early. I sent out mine 3 months before the wedding and had 80% out of towners.

Hmmmm, timeline was more like DW. I know I would want more than 6 weeks, but 3+ months is pretty early. I'm a planner, too so I get it.

Just focus on who you do know can come - if you talk with some of the silent people, maybe mention it and gently remind.

I just wanted to share my unpopular opinion. My RSVP date is also two months before the wedding because all of my vendors need final numbers and payments one month before. I’m really surprised that this isn’t common based on the other responses. I sent invites out with plenty of prep time because people have to travel and I can’t expect them to drop everything when they get an invite a few months before the wedding....

I wouldn't RSVP for a January 2020 wedding until November or December (1-2 months before), so I think that makes sense. Even then, you'll have to contact people because everyone doesn't RSVP.

As a nurse, I try and give people plenty of lead out time for important dates. We do our schedule for four weeks at a time, and once it's done it's done!

I'm sending my save the dates out in April for our October wedding, and the invites will go out in August with an RSVP deadline mid-September. Most of our guests are in-state and our date is on a Sunday (probably, might change due to venue restrictions), so I'm pretty confident that at least 80% of my guests will come. I don't have an A/B list, but I might draw up a B list if I don't fill our capacity/get a bunch of declines.

Don't panic, you have time!

That happened to me as well . And prior to the deadline of when the rsvps were to be answered I sent everyone a reminder email and text ...this was followed by a week of replies by the wuests quite funny actually