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Smaller wedding blues?

Megan, on June 27, 2019 at 4:21 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 10

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Hi! I’m so new to Wedding Wire and the forums (still figuring it out as we speak)! I guess why I’m posting this is because, considering I’ve overthought every detail big or small with planning my wedding, I’ve recently been thinking about my ever changing number of guests. It seems as though lately some guests, even months in advance are stating that there’s a possibility that they might not be able to go, with complete understanding on my end to the situation, a friend of mine, who was going to be doing my hair for my wedding is now not able to come to the wedding either. Ultimately, I know the wedding isn’t about everyone else, it’s all about being happy and focusing on getting married to my amazing fiancé, of course! I’m just saddened to hear that some of our wedding guests are already not able to come, can anyone lend a hand with some advice to get over these type of blues?

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Samantha · on June 27, 2019 at 6:46 AM
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I’m having the same thing happen. We sent out save the dates a year in advance and I just found out my aunt, brother and MOH can’t come 😕 I’m understanding but only human and am also disappointed - our guest list is now 78% FHs friends and family. When we choose a small and intimate wedding with our immediate family and close friends I didn’t think the people we picked would decline. I’m just focusing on the festivities and taking care of my needs as to not get the feeling of being forgotten about.. keeping my excitement levels as high as I can and staying positive about meeting FHs friends and family, knowing they’ll be by friends and family too.
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Laura · on June 27, 2019 at 7:56 AM
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I sometimes mourn the fact that we don’t have more people to invite (we’re hermits), but then I remind myself of all the money I’m savings buying fewer plates of food! That usually cheers me up, especially when I remind myself it’s more money for the honeymoon.
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Steph · on June 27, 2019 at 8:44 AM
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I learned that no one cared about my wedding like I did. And the day of your wedding you aren't going to think who is there or who isn't. The only thing that is going to matter is you and your fiancé. And my positive way to think about people not showing up to my reception is less money I have to spend and you can see who truly cares.
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Melle · on June 27, 2019 at 10:35 AM
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At the end of the day those people still wish you the best and maybe they can come to other things like if you have an engagement party or bridal shower or whatever else
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Megan · on June 27, 2019 at 10:46 AM
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That’s definitely a good way to stay focused for sure! A lot of the stresses for myself was thinking about everyone else, as I’m still planning it’s hard at times to feel excited for the big day. The blues of other stresses (like $$&dollar get myself into a not so excited state either. I’m trying to remind myself that planning doesn’t last forever and to try and enjoy the journey instead of constantly wishing for it to just get to the big day already! It’ll all be worth it, I’m just an emotional lady, haha! Thank you for your response, it makes me feel at ease that I’m not alone!
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Shannon · on June 27, 2019 at 1:51 PM
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Look at the positives of having a smaller wedding. It’s less expensive, more intimate and only the people most important to you are there.
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Tris · on June 28, 2019 at 12:21 PM
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I know the feeling! We invited 75 and only have 15 rsvps so far. I don't even know how to feel because we have already spent a lot of money on our wedding. Ugh. I'm definitely a homebody and an introvert. It's weird because these are my favorite people but I might only be an acquaintance to them. I suck at friendships. FH is like my only friend Haha.
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Megan · on June 28, 2019 at 4:00 PM
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I 100% agree, it’s been hard! We’re also homebodies or we just like being together. We’re even dealing with feeling like we don’t want to bother people by asking if they’re going or not. We just want a bunch of people to hype us up but most times it just feels like we’re doing all of the hyping each other up.. I don’t know how to feel either. I definitely imagined it more “effortless excitement”, ha..
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Sasha · on July 10, 2019 at 3:48 AM
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Going through the same thing, I've moved cities five times in the past ten years, so I'm reaching out to people I still consider good friends, but I don't see them regularly. I just moved to FH's city 7 weeks ago. His mom kept asking me for addresses for a bridal shower, and I eventually told her I'm just not having one, I literally have no female friends in this city. I'm going back to my last city for a bachelorette, and my MOH invited about 30 local girls, only 3 have RSVPd. I feel embarrassed. But in the end, all that matters is making a new life with FH.
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Alex · on July 18, 2019 at 1:47 PM
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Omg I can totally relate to feeling like I may not be as important to friends as they are to me. I'm still building my guest list and wondering how many of these people will really come. I hope you get a lot more of your RSVPs back!
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