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Adri, on March 6, 2021 at 2:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
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I am planning a small wedding... fifty people at most. I´m just worried that I might offend some relatives that I am not as close to if I don´t invite them. My FH is struggling with this as well. He has a large family, like me, and we are worrying about who to invite and what to do about offending other people.

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Latest activity by Tory, on March 7, 2021 at 9:13 AM
  • CountryBride
    Super April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    I would say something like I’m sorry we couldn’t invite you due to covid we are keeping it to only close family and friends I look forward to going out to dinner after the wedding to celebrate
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  • A
    Just Said Yes June 2033
    Adri ·
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    Thanks for the input! I hope you have a fantastic wedding!

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  • Ali
    Expert March 2021
    Ali ·
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    We invited 50 but only ended up having 30. We couldn't invite some of our extended family and my family ended up not coming. We only invited the aunts uncles on my side and family we see a lot of on my FH side. Everyone understood that we had a certain limit.
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  • Alyssa
    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    I’m also dealing with this issue 😓 my FH and I decided that a good way around it is to do a hybrid wedding 😁 We are going to have some people join us in person and invite the remaining individuals to join us through live stream. That way other relatives feel included, but it ends up saving us money, gives us a way to have the people we really want to be around with us in person that day, and creates more understanding for the others due to COVID guidelines & the number of people at in/person gatherings. Hope this helps! 💕
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  • Sylvia
    Devoted September 2021
    Sylvia ·
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    This is always a hard topic to discuss and something challenging!
    The ultimate thing to remember is that this is YOUR wedding day. You get to decide who is invited. Small family or big family, someone is bound be offended. If they are, so be it. They need to understand that not only do you want a small wedding but there’s also a pandemic going on.
    Plan your wedding the way you want- invite the people you want to really be there for a small wedding! It’ll all work out!
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  • Bella
    Dedicated June 2022
    Bella ·
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    I feel your struggle! This is exactly why I’m
    Doing a destination wedding I can’t bother with people’s emotions because they didn’t get an invite!
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  • A
    Just Said Yes June 2033
    Adri ·
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    Thank you all so much for the advice!

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    50 is not small. Most people will not be offended if they are not invited. Make a list of people who cannot imagine the day without. Include your bestest friends into the mix. No plus ones for singles. Anyone in a relationship, whether 4 months or 50 years and regardless if you have met the significant other, is invited as a couple.

    Never send invites to anyone out of obligation. If you aren't close to parents' friends/coworkers, don't invite them. If parents are paying, give back the money. Your wedding is not a family reunion. That is an event for another weekend.

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  • plangalCG
    VIP May 2018
    plangalCG ·
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    We had 30–and ultimately had to decide to limit to immediate family and close close friends (my criteria was friends who both my husband and I had hung out with/communicated with frequently within the year before the wedding.) For me, limiting to categories helped to set the limits. Some people might be offended but most understand and though your wedding is important to you, remember it’s not as big of a deal to everyone. It’s easy to get wrapped up in how important it is to you and forget that.
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  • Tory
    Devoted May 2022
    Tory ·
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    This!!! Someone will always be offended, so pick the guest list you want
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