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Small Wedding Time Capsule Notes

Whitney, on August 18, 2023 at 5:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 2

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Hi Everyone!
We are having a wedding with just our parents and one friend each. We would like to incorporate a time capsule ceremony and were thinking about sending a letter to the rest of our friends and family saying that we would like to include them in the ceremony by adding notes or small items they would like us to have when we open it on our anniversary. Is this tacky since they will not be invited to the wedding? We already had an intimate engagement party and will not be having any showers, so it's too late to ask then.

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Latest activity by Jacks, on August 18, 2023 at 6:51 PM

CM · on August 18, 2023 at 5:54 PM
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Sorry, but yes, that would be tacky. There is nothing wrong with an intimate ceremony, but you can't have it both ways. The only considerate way to "include" people at a wedding is to invite them, not assign a writing task or ask them to send you things. It's fortunate that you didn't have a shower because it also would have been very inappropriate to include anyone not invited to the wedding.
What you can do is send wedding announcements after the ceremony. Then you'll likely receive congratulatory letters or cards, and possibly some gifts as well. But that's their prerogative.
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Champion November 2054
Jacks · on August 18, 2023 at 6:51 PM
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I would limit it to any cards and letters you receive spontaneously vs. asking people to send you good wishes
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