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Small wedding brides- how to address questions?

Yasmine, on June 13, 2019 at 1:31 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9

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Hello! So FH and I got engaged last October and are getting married in November. We opted for a relatively small wedding, just close friends, parents, siblings, grandparents.
I am attending my cousin's wedding in a couple weeks. No one has seen me since before I got engaged. This is my mom's side of the family and I am not overly close with them. I never was growing up and then my mother and I were estranged for quite a while and I didn't see her family during that time.
No one on my mother's side is invited. When people ask about wedding planning, dates, etc. in a couple weeks (which they will), what is the best way to answer these questions without hurting any feelings?

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Latest activity by Bride2020, on June 13, 2019 at 3:52 PM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 13, 2019 at 1:34 PM
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I usually just say oh it's going pretty well and just leave it at that. I don't really get into specifics of things.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on June 13, 2019 at 1:34 PM
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"We're keeping the guest list to immediate family and close friends only."
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Devoted May 2021
Melissa · on June 13, 2019 at 1:35 PM
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Just say I’m sorry but we decided to have a small intimate wedding. Only immediate family and a few of our closest friends.
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2d Bride · on June 13, 2019 at 1:42 PM
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I think it's much easier to field these questions if you have an intimate wedding than if you have a large one. People understand, "We're limiting this to immediate family." It's much harder to say, "We invited 350 people, but you still didn't make the list."
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on June 13, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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I would just say you are eloping with immediate family!
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Super April 2019
Jazmin · on June 13, 2019 at 2:01 PM
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I agree with Caytlyn. When people that were not invited asked me about the wedding I'd say the same. We were 21 people in total: parents, siblings and their spouses, 3 friends and 1 aunt. I remember one of my cousins asked me to invite her to the wedding soon so that she could find something to wear and I politely told her that we were only going to invite immediate family and she understood.
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Anna · on June 13, 2019 at 2:42 PM
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I say the same thing, it's a very small wedding. But I noticed people still dont listen. I will tell them and theyll still ask "I'm invited right?" I want to shout "didnt you just hear me?!" People really dont. I've come to the point when people ask my fh and I say "its sometime next year. We still don't have a day and we're still planning it." They dont ask after that so I've been saying that. People dont ask cause we make them believe we still dont have a date. My wedding isnt a family reunion and I'm trying keep it that way. Hope this helps.
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VIP October 2020
Kelly · on June 13, 2019 at 3:07 PM
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Say it's an intimate wedding. I say that and most people catch the hint
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Devoted May 2020
Bride2020 · on June 13, 2019 at 3:52 PM
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Girrllll. I was just about to post about this. We are also having a small wedding, same vibe as you, in a year. My fiances brother got married this weekend, I cannot TELL you how many people introduced themselves to me (most after mistaking another bridesmaid for me), then said something like "see you next year for yours, haha!" super casually. We just nodded and said "haha! ok bye!" because it was mostly when people were leaving. So awkward.

If someone asks I would just say "we're having our small, intimate ceremony soon, it's really just our immediate families and a few close friends. we're just simple kind of people! but we'd love to get dinner with you guys soon!" that was sort of my plan if someone had asked, but no one did.
My advice would be to stay out on the dance floor, I think thats how I avoided most questions. My fiance was out there less and he definitely got more questions than I did.
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