I'm having a moment, because I'm reviewing our list of things that still need to be accomplished with the 49 days til our wedding...so if you aren't in the mood for a rant or commiseration, I totally get it, and you don't want to read further 
I posted on here in November that our venue cancelled all the scheduled events through June 2021 because several of the groups were refusing to cut their guest lists to comply with our Governor's mandates.
I've called all of our 58 guests and 3 vendors personally. We had 6 people bow out immediately, we had 1 family opt to just have the parents come and not bring their young adult children, we had a family of 5 bow out because the mom is going into clinicals for her nursing degree. All of these choices were understood and we made sure they knew, without a doubt, we were not upset with their decision and we look forward to celebrating with them at a late summer party about 6 months after the wedding (outdoor).
So this is to say, we knocked our total attendees from 61 to 37. The governor's mandate made 48 persons the maximum for our venue. We could have been very easily under the requirement, no issues, completely in compliance...but we don't get to have our small scale, reevaluated wedding because of the selfishness of others - their absolute refusal to think about the fines and possible shut down of the venue for their non compliance, the loss of revenue and thus loss of income for it's staff, the cost to all the other groups who had to cancel completely because those selfish people forced the venue into this position - it makes me so ANGRY. I'm so tired of the selfishness of others impacting others directly. The lack of concern. The lack of humanity.
This is not to say that I agree with everything that we're being mandated to do, but I'm not going to be the a-hole that makes anything harder for someone else, directly or indirectly. Through all of this pandemic, the selfishness of people has been the prominent concern, at least for me.
If you read this far, I'm sorry. I just needed to "yell", so to speak. I hope you all had a happy holiday and your planning is still going well. Love to all.
