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Kerin
Super February 2021

Small rant

Kerin, on December 27, 2020 at 10:56 AM Posted in Planning 0 17
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I'm having a moment, because I'm reviewing our list of things that still need to be accomplished with the 49 days til our wedding...so if you aren't in the mood for a rant or commiseration, I totally get it, and you don't want to read further Smiley winking

I posted on here in November that our venue cancelled all the scheduled events through June 2021 because several of the groups were refusing to cut their guest lists to comply with our Governor's mandates.

I've called all of our 58 guests and 3 vendors personally. We had 6 people bow out immediately, we had 1 family opt to just have the parents come and not bring their young adult children, we had a family of 5 bow out because the mom is going into clinicals for her nursing degree. All of these choices were understood and we made sure they knew, without a doubt, we were not upset with their decision and we look forward to celebrating with them at a late summer party about 6 months after the wedding (outdoor).

So this is to say, we knocked our total attendees from 61 to 37. The governor's mandate made 48 persons the maximum for our venue. We could have been very easily under the requirement, no issues, completely in compliance...but we don't get to have our small scale, reevaluated wedding because of the selfishness of others - their absolute refusal to think about the fines and possible shut down of the venue for their non compliance, the loss of revenue and thus loss of income for it's staff, the cost to all the other groups who had to cancel completely because those selfish people forced the venue into this position - it makes me so ANGRY. I'm so tired of the selfishness of others impacting others directly. The lack of concern. The lack of humanity.

This is not to say that I agree with everything that we're being mandated to do, but I'm not going to be the a-hole that makes anything harder for someone else, directly or indirectly. Through all of this pandemic, the selfishness of people has been the prominent concern, at least for me.

If you read this far, I'm sorry. I just needed to "yell", so to speak. I hope you all had a happy holiday and your planning is still going well. Love to all.

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Latest activity by Jaquelyn, on December 28, 2020 at 9:51 AM
  • Alexa
    Dedicated October 2022
    Alexa ·
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    I completely understand your anger! I have felt this way too about many things. This pandemic has brought out some good in regard to humanity, but it has definitely brought out a lot of bad as well. I have quickly realized we live in a “me” society where many people forget about how they impact those around them/care more about themselves & what they can/cannot do. I wish more people respected those around them & listened to the doctors/scientists! I think things would be a lot more different. I’m sorry things aren’t going as planned - I hope you can still enjoy your big day as best you can!
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  • T
    Super April 2021
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    I mean, if anything I think you should be upset with the governor for the mandates, and then with the venue for punishing people like you who had nothing to do with whether or not other people's guests lists were cut. No one "forced" the venue to cancel all events, that was the venue's decision.

    What has bothered me through the past ten months has been people laying blame on others, calling the police on their neighbors, etc. The same people who say "we're all in this together" are absolutely vicious towards others if they don't handle situations in the same way. I'm sure there are people who don't think you should be having 38 people together in February, should they call you 'selfish' for that?

    Hope all goes well for you either way!

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  • Kerin
    Super February 2021
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    I respect your opinion, and in no way disagree with you on the Governor...in most cases it's those very same tattle tales who have been motivated to cause additional frustrations all over our country that put many businesses in these predicaments, and the governor is the root of that.


    I'm just angry in general, and needed to voice it somewhere I know a lot of people are feeling the same strain. I've had to move my wedding to a 20 minute ceremony outdoors in Winter to have even a smidgen of what we wanted. It will be what it will be.
    Happy holidays to you.
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  • Kerin
    Super February 2021
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    ::hugs:: thank you, Alexa. Best to you, also.
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  • Katie
    Super August 2020
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    I totally get it Kerin! I felt so bad for our vendors who were counting on even the small weddings to financially make it through till this is over. They spend more time rescheduling then getting their clients through the door to make space for future bookings and collect their payments to keep their doors open. I totally understand those who want to postpone, but for those who chose to minimize guest lists and follow the guidelines in order to move forward, it’s hard. Hoping the vendors can keep their businesses open for future couples to hire them. I hope the best for the rest of your planning and wish you a safe and beautiful wedding day ❤️
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  • T
    Super April 2021
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    I totally get you, and I hope everything works out for you Smiley heart this all sucks so much. I hope it turns out great for you!

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  • K
    Dedicated January 2021
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    I definitely understand the need for the mandate and it would be devastating for your event to be known as a spreader event. I also understand you being upset at the other people. Is there a reason the venue wouldn't host your wedding since you did comply?
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
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    DITTO GIRL! When others act like selfish little children, letting their wants & desires supersede everything & everyone else, it’s so beyond frustrating! Glad your venting here!
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  • Kerin
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    Thank you, Katie!
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  • Kerin
    Super February 2021
    Kerin ·
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    The place is part of a Metro Park and the board of directors decided it was in their best interest to cancel all events rather than pick and choose. 🤷‍♀️
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  • Kerin
    Super February 2021
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    Thanks, Michelle! ::hugs::
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  • Erin
    Expert May 2021
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    I will also add that its very selfish of the idiots in DC on both sides who have to “add in” stuff with the stimulus checks... just give us the frickin money and stop giving us ur trashy selfish nonsense !!!! They shouldnt even be paid right now!! NOR each governor they havent missed one single paycheck!! No other wording or add ons needed to give people the money, no strings attached!!
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    That is quite frustrating for sure! The negligence from our federal government trickled down to state and businesses... and finally us- the people. I know venues in Michigan are still holding large weddings due to the amount of money they’re making and will opt for the little fine. Selfish of these few venues, yup! I truly hope you get your day! 🤍🤍
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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
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    As someone in the restaurant and theatre industries, who gets pushed two more weeks away from work with every non-compliant event....

    *I FEEL YOU*.

    I'm sorry, this is awful, and you are not alone in primal screaming.

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  • Raelyn
    Just Said Yes September 2022
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    As someone who worked in the hotel business during a lot of this ive seen a lot of a-holes and I am so sorry that their selfishness has affected your special day. I 100% understand your frustrations and they are so validated! This time in our world has really showed us that a majority of our population is either unnecessarily mean or so very nice. Im sorry you have had to deal with the negative end, I hope you are able to find a beautiful venue that you love even more than the first!
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  • Jessica
    Devoted February 2021
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    I completely understand what you’re saying we only have 35 people plus our vendors which put us under the limit and we couldn’t either we had to cancel our wedding two weeks prior because the governor went down to 10 people maximum we ended up losing a couple thousand dollars from cancellation of hotel rooms and transportation that we didn’t realize had no cancellation policies I Imagine in the new year someone will get enough balls together to sue the Pennsylvania government over the mile long list of grievances felt by everyone
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  • J
    Savvy April 2021
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    I hope that means they refunded every single penny you paid to them. I’m surprised they didn’t want the revenue??
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