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Just Said Yes May 2021

Small Ceremony: Moving Up the Date vs. Keeping Same Date

Katie, on November 15, 2020 at 1:00 AM Posted in Planning 0 11
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Our wedding date is May 30, 2021. With COVID not getting any better, I’m super skeptical about how many people we’ll actually be able to invite (right now our guest list is at about 200). We’re considering changing it to a super small ceremony with just our immediate families and our wedding party/their SO’s. If we decided to do this, we’re also considering moving up the wedding date. It’s hard to make any of these decisions at the moment as we’re both living in different places right now (I live in MI and he’s in IL, but trying really hard to find a job here and move here). Should we move up our date and have a much more intimate ceremony? Or keep the same date and do the same thing? OR try to stick to our original plan and keep our date and invite all of those guests? Any advice is much appreciated.

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Latest activity by Cristina, on November 16, 2020 at 2:04 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I think that keeping the 200 person guest list and your original date is, unfortunately, probably going to be out of the question. I don’t see any reason why you should move it up, but I do think that starting to think about cutting your guest list is a good idea.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I agree with Caytlyn.

    Now is the time to start exploring Plans B and C.

    One would be downsizing, one would be postponing. I wouldn't make any decisions, now, but doing your research early will save you a lot of headaches in, say, late February.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I persinally would not eveb start wedding planning until one had written job offer to the other's location. My FH and I were long distance for over 2 years so I do have experience in that area.
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I think a 200 guest list won't happen unfortunately. If you do push it up it may add stress to you because may is only 6 months away.
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  • Jai
    VIP May 2020
    Jai ·
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    Def reduce number of guests. We got married may 16 this past year and went from 92 people to 7 people. Covid taught me to always have a plan B, and C in place. You can always have a big celebration later
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  • Ashley
    Dedicated May 2021
    Ashley ·
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    Hey wedding twin! I would say cut down on guest list that’s probably what we will end up doing. I think moving up your date will add more stress because you will have to replan making sure your vendors are available for new date and you will more than likely still have to have a small wedding.
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  • A
    Devoted May 2021
    Ally ·
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    Unfortunately 200 people will likely not work in May. I dont you should move up the date but definitely have the scaled down wedding. If you havent invited everyone yet, you won’t even have to go through the process of uninviting people
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  • Sharonda
    Super January 2021
    Sharonda ·
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    Hello. I was in the same boat. I was planning a 250 person destination wedding in New Orleans on January 16, 2021. However, as the summer passed and I realized this virus wasn't going anywhere anytime soon, we totally revamped our plans to a 15 person wedding (immediate family only and my childhood pastor as the officiant) at a resort in Florida (my home state) on our original date. Postponing was never a thought because my fiance and I met later in life and this is the first and only marriage for both of us. I often tell people "we're old, we don't have time to postpone. LOL." When we initially changed our plans, I was devastated because I realized I was not going to have the wedding I had been planning or always dreamed of, but this "Plan B" wedding has been the rainbow during the COVID storm and a true blessing in disguise. I am much less stressed and I'm excited about the opportunity to enjoy a more intimate crowd and save money but also splurge on a few things I wouldn't have been able to before. I would recommend that you keep your same timeline (no need to stress yourself out by pushing the date up) and reduce your wedding guest list. Take it from someone who did it . . . it will work out.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Katie ·
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    Thanks for your reply. We’re definitely not postponing, even if it means having to downsize (we’ve waited a long time to get married and we just want to be married already sort of thing).
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  • Meetlosortiz
    Just Said Yes May 2022
    Meetlosortiz ·
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    Hello my wedding was supposed to be May 20,2021 also with 300 guest but tidied to covid I just postponed another year
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  • Cristina
    Devoted December 2021
    Cristina ·
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    I would have to agree with everyone suggesting plans B amd C. We were planning a bigger wedding with close to 100 guests but due to covid and life plans, we are now planning two weddings. We are sticking to our original date 8/15/21 but keeping it close friends and family with maybe just a dinner reception. Because we need to move and are considering a cross country move, we will plan a bigger renewal after. Plus side is anyone who can't come in August can hopefully attend the renewal.
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