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Futuremrs.v
Savvy January 2021

Slimy dresses

Futuremrs.v, on May 13, 2020 at 11:58 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 14
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Hi brides! So I need some help...
My oldest brother is my best friend and he is going to be my “man” of honor. He is on his second marriage now and the girl he married, to say it nicely, is not my favorite person. She is very rude and only cares about herself and there are many other reasons we don’t get along.

Well, because her and I don’t have a good relationship at all I need help approaching a subject. She likes to dress a little scandalous I guess you could say. She always has her “girls” hanging out. I am worried that she is going to dress that way to the wedding. I already don’t want her there, let alone if she dresses inappropriate. Any suggestions on how to approach the subject or handle it?

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Latest activity by Futuremrs.v, on May 15, 2020 at 4:04 PM
  • Belle
    VIP August 1997
    Belle ·
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    I would ask your brother to wait and see what she chooses and if it is too scandalous, he needs to do the talking. How scandalous could it be? I had a friend who showed me one of her wedding guest wearing way too short dress, we could see her panties when she bent down and she often had to fix her top because her nippies showed up 🤯
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  • Futuremrs.v
    Savvy January 2021
    Futuremrs.v ·
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    Oh my goodness! I don’t know how I would handle it if that ever happened 😂
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  • A
    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    You could talk to your brother but honestly if she’s only a guest I don’t think it’s right to say anything about what she’s wearing. Just make sure she’s not in a lot of pictures.
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    Savvy September 2020
    Carolyn ·
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    I totally agree with this. I don’t think there’s really anything you can say to her, especially given you already have a strained relationship. But honestly, if she wears something ridiculous, that’s just embarrassing for her - not you!
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  • Futuremrs.v
    Savvy January 2021
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    That’s true. She will only be in a one set of family pictures. I guess I am putting more thought into it just because I know it will upset me but it’s not about her on my wedding day anyways.
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  • Futuremrs.v
    Savvy January 2021
    Futuremrs.v ·
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    That is true! I need to remind myself that the wedding is about my FH and I not anyone else.
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Yeah I get that. I would be annoyed too but she will be the one everyone will look at and judge if she wears something way too revealing.
    As long as she’s in one picture or so you’ll probably forget about it afterwards!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Sadly, it’s not really for you to tell her how to dress. She’s not in your wedding party (amen). But I would tell your brother your concern and ask him if he can guide her into wearing something that covers the girls. She might listen to him.
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  • Futuremrs.v
    Savvy January 2021
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    Thank you! She is one of the girls who says any attention is good attention, which is why she dresses that way.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    I know it’ll bother you but it doesn’t take away from you at all and will make her look soooo tacky if she does put the girls out on display at a wedding. 🤦‍♀️
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  • N
    Dedicated July 2020
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    If I was that concerned with it I’d probably but her in my wedding party and give her a high-neck full length gown. Devious but better than the pictures and stressing over it. Since she’s your SIL she’ll definitely be in some photos.


    But I also think if you have a good relationship with your brother, you could always try having a candid conversation with him about your concern.

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  • Futuremrs.v
    Savvy January 2021
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    The wedding party is only 3 people both my brothers and one of my nephews and the reason she will only be in like 1 family picture is because even my parents don’t want her in them. She has done a lot of nasty stuff, it sounds like we are crazy lol
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  • Katharine
    Expert July 2021
    Katharine ·
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    Honestly, you don't have the right to tell her how to dress. It's her body. It doesn't sound like she's in your wedding party, which would be the ONLY reason you could pick out a dress for her to wear.

    I think you need to accept that she will dress however she will dress, and just be prepared to ask the photographer to avoid taking pictures of her as much as possible so you don't have mementos of her attire.

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  • Futuremrs.v
    Savvy January 2021
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    That is a good idea about the photographer. Thank you!
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