Skipping Writing Our Vows?

I do not like public speaking either and when I brought up whether we would say our vows in the ceremony he wanted to because he thought it was tradition.. We have opted to stick with the traditional vows and repeat after our officiant.

We are still going to write vows to each other, but we are going to read them during our first look before the ceremony so it is just the two of us!

I am undecided! My FH is also not sappy, and if we write our own vows and his aren't sappy I am worried I might be disappointed or feel awkward if mine are.

I am so jealous. I have been begging my Fiance this entire time for us to not have to write and recite our own vows for exactly the same reason. I am not comfortable speaking with all those people watching and I am NOT a sappy person. I wish my Fiance was as giving as you LOL

My idea that I suggested, and maybe this would work for you: Write the letters to one another, like those would be the more personal vows that you are now not doing. And in the ceremony, help come up with or write some more non-traditional vows to replace the traditional "in sickness and health" junk, this will represent your personality. This will feel more natural and meaningful for you as a couple and for your guests but will eliminate the reciting your own vows and being sappy in front of all those people.

I had that as my plan and just started googling ceremony examples and picking pieces here and there to put something together that was more "us" that we would say together or would be prompted by our officiant.

Pointless though because he is still making me write my own vows. The things we do for those we love lol

We did the traditional vows but were able to choose the different variations. We actually had fun choosing them and then DH got to add his personal choice of choosing to say "til death do us part" - it became a little inside joke between us.