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Eri
Super October 2020

Skipping the rehearsal?

Eri, on September 15, 2020 at 3:06 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8
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For those of you that didn't have a rehearsal, how did it go?

We initially planned on having a rehearsal as well as a dinner. However, now that we've downsized our wedding to local family and the wedding party (about 40 people), and considering most of the party cannot make it in the night before, a rehearsal seems kind of pointless.

I still have anxiety about hosting a gathering at all during these times, despite taking a ton of precautions, and am happy to be rid of an extra event.

We have a meeting with our officiant next week to go over everything, but as far as I know, it's going to be a pretty simple ceremony. It's also an extra $195 for the officiant to attend the rehearsal.

Any tips or words of advice on how to help things run smoothly?

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Latest activity by Eri, on September 16, 2020 at 9:01 AM
  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Many weddings don't have a rehearsal. but some people also choose to do one the day of so maybe you can just let everyone know a general guideline like "here is where you walk" aha or if you have a coordinator, they are able to time things.

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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
    Eri ·
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    We do have a coordinator at the venue, so I'm hoping she'll be able to assist with this! I just got a lot of "What?!" reactions when I told people we weren't having a rehearsal, which made me nervous lol.

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  • Kari
    VIP May 2020
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    You can easily skip the rehearsal. Just make sure you or your officiant are organized enough to coordinate and clearly communicate expectations to all of the people in your wedding so they know where to be, what to do, and what their role is. If you are having a fairly simple, straightforward, and uncomplicated ceremony it's not that much for anyone to remember and will turn out fine.

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  • Margaret
    Rockstar October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    Trust your officiant, he / she has done this countless times.


    We are not doing a rehearsal, we are doing a get together dinner with any guest that wants to attend and we feel confident it will all go smoothly
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  • Super August 2020
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    We went through the ceremony with the officiant the day before (it could be whenever you're already seeing them), but we didn't actually rehearse. It made me feel better, but I think we were almost as prepared before that "rehearsal" than we were after it, because we had already talked about it with him during our final Zoom meeting while looking at a map I made of our ceremony space. Just make sure the groom is at the altar/spot before you start (if that's the plan) walking toward him!
    Mine was not, but that's pretty much the only way to mess up the ceremony order. We still got married and I'm not even a little bit upset about it.
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  • Brittany
    Savvy September 2020
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    When I did the rehearsal with my planner it took about 20mins and we just went over this is when you walk down and this is where u stand and then the order 2 leave the ceremony in. We didnt have our Officiant present and the day of went perfect!
    I'd say there is no need for it if your bridal party gets there day of early to run through where everyone stands Smiley smile
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  • Allie
    Expert November 2021
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    I’ve been to a wedding without a rehearsal and that person told me they wish they had one because people were everywhere and didn’t know what to do. So for me personally, I will pay the extra to have the rehearsal. But there are many factors that could lead into why that wedding had the errors it did...if you have a good coordinator and people who have been in weddings before, it’s likely that things will be fine. The wedding I attended was a little younger so the people in the wedding had never been in a wedding before and there was no guidance.
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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
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    Thank you so much for the reassurance, everyone! My officiant and coordinator seem pretty organized, as is my photographer (she's going to have little spots on the ground to mark where we stand), so I think we'll be good!

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