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Michelle
Rockstar October 2022

Skipping entirely vs skimping

Michelle, on February 18, 2021 at 1:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 29
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For elements you do not care about at all, are you eliminating them or keeping them to please others but cutting back/not prioritizing?

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Latest activity by Eniale, on February 22, 2021 at 10:27 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    If it's something that my fiance and I aren't interested in, we're skipping it. I can't think of any part of our wedding that we're keeping just to please others - our thought is that it's our wedding and we'll plan (and pay for) only the things we truly want.
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  • Courtney
    Devoted September 2022
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    We're skipping favors, programs, and save the dates. I find them to be a huge waste of money. Save the dates have essentially evolved into an early invite for everyone on your list, when in reality they were designed for far out of town guests. Programs are good for while your guests are waiting for the ceremony to start and that's about it, super wasteful.

    Also nixing the bouquet and garter toss, replacing it with an anniversary dance or just skipping it all together. Depends on how our grandparents hang on for the next couple of years.

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  • Expert September 2021
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    We're skipping a few things that we just don't care about - like favors and programs. We also aren't doing the bouquet and garter toss, only because it feels tacky and we won't have many single guests so it would honestly just be awkward.

    I think skimping will bite you in the butt with most things - you can try to find the best price but I wouldn't necessarily skimp on anything. If it doesn't matter to you, I would get rid of it all together and put that money elsewhere!

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  • Allison
    Devoted October 2022
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    We are skipping on bouquet/garter toss, programs, DJ and something new/borrowed/blue- what I can think of off the top of my head. I'm not trying to please anyone, if they have a problem with the way I'm doing something then that's their problem.

    We aren't having a crazy wedding so will just be creating a playlist of songs since my venue has a hookup for an ipod, I don't need to spend money on a DJ.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    I didn’t care for decor much so I skimped. Still had them but not a lot
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  • Connie
    Dedicated December 2021
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    Still trying to figure out what will be skipped and which will be skimped! We want minimal and DIY decor, no DJ, no favors, no programs, no bar server (just beer and wine self serve) but my parents are pushing us to go all out!!! They want to pay for the extra vendors, but I would so much rather keep things simple 😰 The fewer things that have to be coordinated and remembered, the happier I will be! For now we are just taking things 1 vendor at a time and seeing how everything comes together.
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  • Apryl
    Dedicated March 2022
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    I'm skipping favors, programs, and menus.


    Skimping on decor, flowers (getting married in a botanical garden), and alcohol ( 1-2 signature drinks, beer, red wine, white wine).
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  • Melody
    Devoted April 2021
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    We're skipping favors and videographer. We'll be live streaming the wedding and the app we're using will save the video to your account and the phone being used, so that's how we'll have the video. (Figured we honestly wouldn't really watch it much so why pay for a pro?) We're also skipping Save the Dates, though that wasn't super intentional. It does have the silver lining of saving money, though, so I'm all about it. I have a super fun DIY idea for our programs, but we'll honestly probably end up skipping them. We've got a lot going on and I don't really need the extra stress or to spend the extra money.

    I'd say we're skimping on flowers. The only flowers we'll have are the bouquets and possibly corsages for our moms. None on the tables, and we've got better centerpieces (for our vision) in the works. Decorations are a skimp/splurge thing. We're getting married in a garden setting, so the only "decorations" are our centerpieces. That's the skimp part. The splurge is that they're custom-made models of MotoGP circuits that we'll use to decorate our home after the wedding. They definitely don't come cheap!

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  • Lisa
    Super October 2021
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    This is something my fiancé and I talked about last night due to a spur of the moment move which will increase our living expenses and ultimately take away funds for the wedding. Most of what we are skipping on is some décor like extra candles down the aisle or on the staircase where we make our entrance to the reception. I guess to can say we a skimping on somethings too; candles instead of floral centerpieces, standard ivory instead of colored linens, beer and wine bar instead of open bar... I'm much more concerned about being able to survive daily expenses than adding on unnecessary things for the wedding.

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  • Samantha
    Super October 2022
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    We’re slipping a photographer because we both loathe having our photos taken. If will not be able to really enjoy myself if I am worried that I’ll se pictures later and not remember laughing with my loved ones but looking like a doofus.


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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
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    We skipped having a professional videographer. We simply didn't see the need for one, and we didn't want additional vendors besides the photographers all up close during our special moments throughout the day. Some people think we were crazy to not have a videographer considering that we had a 6-figure budget. But we didn't want one!

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  • Shirley
    Expert November 2020
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    Skimped on videographer instead of skipped because we wanted to share the video with guests who couldn't come due to covid.


    Completely skipping robes/pajamas for bridesmaids.
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  • Catherine
    Dedicated September 2021
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    Skipping garter & bouquet tosses mostly because I always felt so uncomfortable participating in them as a single girl at other weddings. But also the idea of my FH going up under my skirt in front of our friends and family for the garter toss makes me mega uncomfortable lol.


    “Skimping” on florals/decor (kind of) because we’re getting married on top of a mountain and that’s decor enough lol! Myself and bridesmaids will have bouquets, we have some flowers on an arbor, and we’re doing greenery + candles as centerpieces. Everything else will be super simple.
    We almost skipped save the dates but it’s a destination (within the USA but still a good distance from pretty much all guests) wedding and I’ve been getting bombarded with questions about lodging, so we “skimped” and designed + printed them ourselves on Canva instead of getting fancy ones or magnets and we’ll be sending them out so people have the wedding website to help with logistics.
    Will also be skipping miscellaneous stationary like programs and menus, and I’m 90% sure we’re not including any details or RSVP cards in our formal invitations, will just have our wedding website and instructions for sending RSVP online or reaching out to us directly. Invitation suites are EXPENSIVE and most of it gets tossed anyway!
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  • Catherine
    Dedicated September 2021
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    Forgot to mention but we’re also skipping champagne for toasts and just letting everyone toast with whatever they have. Saves money, plus my FH and lots of our guests don’t drink anyway. We’re also “skimping” on our bar in a way, no true full bar, just wine, beer, and 2 signature cocktails.
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  • Maureen
    Devoted November 2021
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    Skipping videographer, bridal party (only MOH and BM), garter toss, bouquet toss, parent speeches (kind of a new thing anyways), favors.
    We might skip programs or might not (we’re getting married in a church so it’s nice to have the formality of the service so we’re weighing out the pros and cons). Skipping a photo booth also bc we don’t have the room and they’re a waste to us.

    Skimping on flowers, and probably going to skimp on people and cut some originally invited (thanks Covid)
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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
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    We skipped favors, photo booths, garter toss, bouquet toss, and skimped on speeches. We went with fake flowers because real flowers were not only expensive, my dad's allergic to pretty much everything.

    If it's something you don't care about, but still want, skimp.

    If it's something you don't care about, and don't want, skip.

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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2021
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    If it's something my fiance and I don't care for or feel we need to waste money on then we cut it or skimp.


    We skimpped on our photographer. We really do not see the need to pay someone 2k for 4 hours of pictures, plus having to rush around for 4 hours for the price of 2k to make sure we have all the important stuff in pictures. I'm not about to rush through my wedding. We are having a friend who just started her photography business last year taking pictures. She is going to take pictures all day and we are paying her $500 plus she will be using the pictures on her website.
    We are skipping the champagne toast, we are having a backyard wedding and we are buying all the drinks. We figured it is going to be to much on us to get champagne as well and most of us don't care for it. we can just do a toast with whatever cocktail we have.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2021
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    Exactly, we love our guests but sorry I'm not about to dish out money for something we don't want because some of our guests would prefer it, it's a waste of money in our budget we could be spending elsewhere or splurging elsewhere.
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  • Shelly
    Rockstar January 2022
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    Same with us! If we don't see a need for it, then we're tossing it out.

    We skipped on having flower girls or a ring bearer. My mom wasn't too happy about that, but we just don't see a point in having them. Also not having elaborate decoration for the gift/card table and guestbook. Guests will walk past it maybe once or twice to give their gift/card and sign the book then that's it. We're also probably not going to have pictures of everyone around the memorial candle, and just keep it simple with a sign. Again, our guests will only look at them maybe once.

    Skimping on florals because I refuse to pay $2k for something that's going to die and get thrown away, BUT I don't like the look of faux florals. I gave our florist our budget (under $1k) and she worked with us! Skimping on toasts as well. We're having speeches, but don't need everyone to have a glass of champagne just for that.

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    We're skipping a lot of the same things! My fiance and I are doing a guest book table (with just the guest book, instant cameras, extra film, and a sign to explain what to do), but not doing a card/gift table. We were undecided on whether to do a memorial table, but I think we're going to skip it. We're also skipping the champagne toasts. At every wedding I've been to that had a champagne toast, there were SO many mostly-full glasses of champagne sitting around, not many people actually drank the full glass. I'd rather not spend the money on a bunch of bottles of champagne (plus bottle fees and serving fees), just for people to not drink it. The only flowers we're doing are bouquets/boutonnieres for the wedding party, I just couldn't justify the cost of floral centerpieces or other decor.
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