Kaleigh
Savvy April 2020

Skipping Bridal Shower

Kaleigh, on January 13, 2020 at 2:34 PM Posted in Parties and Events 1 46
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Is anyone completley skipping a bridal shower? I think it would be a lot of fun and my Mom wants to throw me one but i just find it so unnecessary. My fiance and i already live together and already have everything we need and want. Did you do something instead of? Just wondering what everyones thoughts are.

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  • Sherry
    Rockstar September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    They definitely aren't required and a lot of people skip them now days.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I had one and really enjoyed it (I debated skipping it but I'm happy my mom wanted to host one). You could do a bridal tea or bridal luncheon, and not request gifts? Or a couples shower instead?

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  • Amber
    Rockstar February 2020
    Amber ·
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    I had mine this past weekend and I had a great time. We didn't have anything we necessarily "needed" (we've been living on our own and together for a while), but I took the opportunity to upgrade a lot of my old kitchen supplies and nicer towels/sheets, stuff like that. If you don't have any gifts that you want/need, I second one of MrsD's ideas!

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  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I had one and my husband and I live together for almost 3 years by that point. While we had a lot of the stuff, we wanted newer stuff so that's what we registered for. I have also heard of doing a lingerie party.
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  • Neeva
    Expert April 2020
    Neeva ·
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    I'm not having one. I hate the attention and don't like opening gifts in front of others at all. I also don't feel like we need anything else Smiley smile

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  • Victoria
    Savvy March 2020
    Victoria ·
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    I skipped it. I don’t like the attention being on me. We didn’t even have an engagement party. It’s fine if it’s not your thing. Plus we’ve already been living together as well.
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  • Cherry
    Devoted February 2020
    Cherry ·
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    I also skipped it. We didn't do an engagement party, either. We've been together for 5 years and don't need anything. We have a lot of things we WANT!! LOL. But nothing I'd be comfy asking other people to buy for us (like expensive kitchen items, new vacuum cleaner, etc.)


    A lot of people skip it now. If you mom REALLY wants to do one, maybe you could ask her to keep it super small? Or do like MrsD suggested and have a small tea party or something like that? This way it can be really casual.

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  • M
    Savvy October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    I’m skipping it completely. We didn’t do an engagement party either. FH and I are both in our mid-30s and when we moved in together we had to get rid of stuff because we already had duplicates. Most of my friends and family live out of town and I can’t ask them to come for yet another event. Not gonna lie, I also HATE shower games. Do what feels right for you! There’s no right or wrong in any of this stuff!
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  • Amanda
    Savvy January 2021
    Amanda ·
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    We are skipping it as well! Our family and most of our friends have to travel to our wedding and I don't want them to make an extra trip if it's not really necessary Smiley smile

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  • Jill
    Expert May 2020
    Jill ·
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    I'm skipping! My bridesmaids are spread out all over the US, I live in Kansas City, and all my family lives in Arkansas. It was just going to be too much of a pain to try and have one. Plus FH and I already live together in a house so there's not much we need

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  • Kathryn
    Super April 2020
    Kathryn ·
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    We're skipping it. I would love to have one, but my aunt offered and she's in another city. I couldn't justify flights just to go to a party where I'd be the center of attention. We already live together and just need some updates.
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  • Jennifer
    Devoted April 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I wasn't going to have one, but I thought it would be fun considering we are moving across the country. We also don't need anything but I am receiving upgrades on sheets, towels, new dishes,etc.. I also find this nice because these gifts will be ours. He came from a previous marriage and I think it is awesome to have a set of utensils that we picked out togethrt or was bought specifically for us.
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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I wanted to skip since my husband and I had already been living together for over a year but his Mom insisted we have one because it was a "traditional wedding must have" and I didn't feel like arguing
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  • M
    Beginner July 2022
    Meetthealvarez’S ·
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    I personally do not want one and rather just have an engagement party that celebrates both of us. I honestly don’t want a bridal shower or bachelorette party for myself.
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    My bridesmaid threw us a “date night” shower. We already lived together before we got married, and owned a home, so we were in somewhat as the same boat as you. Everyone brought us gifts we could use for date nights. So we got restaurant gift cards, movie gift cards, experiences, wine, etc. She also made a jar and everyone wrote down 2 date night ideas and put in the jar so when we want a fun date night, we pick one out of the jar! That could be an alternative to regular gifts.

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  • M
    Savvy October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    This is a really cool idea!
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  • Coral
    Dedicated October 2020
    Coral ·
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    Doesn't look like anyone is going to plan one and I don't like being the center of attention, so I plan on skipping it.
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  • Jacy
    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Jacy ·
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    We are skipping the engagement party and bridal shower. We have people coming from all over the state so it would be too much to try to get together multiple times. I’m sending out a cute note to members of the bridal party to tell them. Something like “We’re skipping the engagement party & bridal shower so save your presents and partying for the big day!
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  • Emily
    Savvy October 2020
    Emily ·
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    I love this idea.... I have to find someone to throw this for me. I don't want a traditional bridal shower either because FH and I own our home and are pretty good on home things so I was planning on just skipping a bridal shower all together. This however, might change my mind!

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  • Gloria
    Dedicated June 2021
    Gloria ·
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    We are skipping the engagement party, bridal shower and bach parties. We have a home and everything we need already.

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