Beginner June 2020

Skip save the dates?

Abbey, on January 5, 2020 at 11:00 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 9
Our engagement was announced on December 15, and our wedding date is June 6, 2020, so as of today, only 5 months away. Is it silly to send out save the dates or should we? It would be nice to cut that cost. We are having 100 guests and having to make quite a few cuts, and were even planning on two waves of invitations in case people from afar cannot come. Trying to decide if it’s an unnecessary step.


Latest activity by Sherry, on January 6, 2020 at 9:18 AM
  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
    Kathryn ·
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    I think it would still be nice to send something as a heads up so people have it on their radar. Otherwise they might plan something for your date and have to move it or make hard decisions. You could do fairly cheap save the dates from Shutterfly, minted, Walmart. Just a small card with the date so people know about it in advance.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    We literally sent save the dates as emails lol. Created a separate wedding email account, attached a nice picture of us with “save the date!” and our date and location.

    Save the dates totally are not necessary so you can skip them if you want. But if you’d like to give people a heads up you CAN do it like this for free.
    Also just make sure you’re only sending save the dates to people to are 100% going to get invited (since you said you have 2 rounds of invitations, the save the dates should only go to the people from the first round)
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  • Lynzai
    Savvy June 2021
    Lynzai ·
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    I mean, since the wedding is so close I feel like you can just send invitations a little early! Up to you though!
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  • Kendra
    Devoted July 2021
    Kendra ·
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    I would say at this point it’s not necessary but maybe send the invitations out a little bit earlier. Especially with the summer and people making vacation plans.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    STDs are definitely optional. We have decided not to do them. We figured pretty much everyone we are inviting are close to us and already know when we are getting married, so why waste money on STDs and postage?
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  • karen
    Master October 2017
    karen ·
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    Just remember that sending STDs locks you in to invites. It is exceedingly rude to send out STDs, and not invite. Send a very nice letter to grandparents. Send email to parents and wedding party.

    B lists are rude.

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  • Canadiangal
    Dedicated August 2020
    Canadiangal ·
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    We sent out invitations early because we didn't want to send save the dates so sent invites early!
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  • Martha
    Devoted September 2019
    Martha ·
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    I would skip it, you have to send invites soon anyways. That was something I wish we would’ve skipped for our wedding (which was local too), would’ve saved us about $300. We didn’t even get to send them because of a death in the family around the time we wanted to send them.
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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    The aren't required and considering how close you are, I would skip them and move straight to the invites.

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