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Just Said Yes January 2022

Sisters are bad bridesmaids

Mary, on December 26, 2021 at 12:33 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8




I need some advice and curious how y’all would handle this situation..

I am only having 2 bridesmaids, both of my

Sisters (born in their 30’s) I asked them a year ago right after I got engaged, and told them they could pick whatever style dresses they wanted to wear (because one of my sisters is extremely picky and I didn’t wanna deal with that). Now my wedding is exactly 1 month away and my sisters still have not bought a dress! Every time I bring it up they just blow me off. It’s literally keeping me up at night but at this point I don’t even wanna bring it up to them because it causes me major anxiety. My finace is having 3 grooms men and I’m terrified I’m going to be up there standing alone!


Also want to add my sisters did not throw me a bridal shower or bachelorette party.., I know I shouldn’t expect these things but it does hurt my feelings. They haven’t helped with anything. I got them very expensive bridesmaids gifts but I’m not sure I even want to give it to them! Bridesmaids gifts are suppose to be a thank you for spending lots of money on being in my wedding but they haven’t even spent anything and are making this process unnecessarily stressful for me. I am also paying for the hair and makeup Smiley sad

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Latest activity by Tyff, on January 5, 2022 at 2:44 PM
  • Brianna
    Dedicated July 2022
    Brianna ·
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    I’m sorry you have to deal with all this! Try to give them a deadline on when they need to get a dress because also they may need to get alterations. If they don’t follow through, you pick the dress, get them and have them reimburse you (if that’s not to much trouble). You can also be up front and tell them how you feel about things. That you wish they help a little more and be understanding. You still have a month left and I know you have a lot to do. Try to give them a task to do to help out.
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  • T
    Dedicated July 2022
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    OMG I am having a similar sister MOH situation. Both of my sisters hate most of my ideas and dresses, MOH wants to plan and VETO any bachelorette party idea I have, and honestly, they are making it such a stressful experience I kind of wish I had a friend as my MOH. Did I mention my sister doesn't even particularly like my fiance???? Oy vey. Overbearing or under-involved sisters are a bummer all around. I would talk to them if I were you (of course I am too chicken to take my own advice) but it is the only way you can change the current trajectory. Best of luck!

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  • Jacks
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    I’m going to start here. I would lower your expectations for you wedding party. The bachelorette and showers are only optional parties.
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  • Jacks
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    You gave them leeway on the dresses, they’ll pick some and show up. I know it hurts, but you’re not owed bachelorette or shower. Take what’s coming your way and enjoy it!
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    Did you mean to reply to me? I don’t understand how your comment has anything to do with my post?
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    I am so sorry. I pray they come around. Do you have a friend or two you could ask in an emergency? I am heartbroken for you.

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  • Jacks
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    What’s hard to understand? You gave them choice over their dresses. They’ll get something within the guidelines and show up.


    You’re not owed parties, and if you don’t get them doesn’t mean you have a bad wedding party.


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    That is what I thought. You are responding to the first post in this thread, not my comment. I was confused because you replied to my response, not hers.

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