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Just Said Yes December 2021

Sister uninvited herself from my wedding…what now?

Reagan, on November 14, 2021 at 11:48 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9
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My older sister and I (two years apart) have always had a very rough relationship growing up but I have tried to mend and get closer.


She has been in two previous relationships with great men and they did not work out due to her own infidelity. She is now with another nice man.
My wedding is less than 1 month away and she has been spreading rumors to my other family members saying I had “uninvited” them and wanted to “forget” them. These statements weren’t true and I had to explain to my family they were not cut from the wedding. As well as telling them I bash them and hate them.
I expressed to my older sister how badly this had hurt me and her responses were hateful, name calling and telling me she no longer wants to attend after being confronted as well as claiming I have always been an awful, pathetic person. I have been fighting with her for weeks over her behavior and she officially “uninvited” herself today. When I only wanted her to apologize for name calling and lying.
Am I wrong for letting her stay away from my wedding? I currently do not want her to attend If she is truly not happy for me.

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Latest activity by P.t., on November 16, 2021 at 9:24 AM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    Your wedding day is one day that you don’t want any negativity. If she is one to cause a scene I would leave the situation as is and focus on enjoying your day.
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  • mrswinteriscoming
    VIP December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    Obviously we don't know your sister's side of the story but from what you have described, it sounds like your sister thrives off of creating conflicts and attracting attention to herself regardless of whether it is good attention or bad.

    If I were you, I wouldn't follow up with her and would just let her sit it out. Wedding planning is stressful enough as it is and the last thing you need is for your sister's behaviour to cause you stress in the lead up to the wedding or to otherwise cloud what will be a beautiful day.

    She has made a decision to create drama and uninvite herself from the wedding and that is a decision she must now bear the consequences of. Don't submit to her facade in the interests of making amends when there is nothing you have to be sorry for.

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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    She uninvited herself. It seems like she did you a favor. You did not pull your invitation. She opted to decline, which is her right as a guest. The only one to blame for her not attending is herself.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    I agree with this. If she is that hostile and unsupportive, don’t exert your energy trying to change her or clean up her messes because her behavior only reflects badly on her, not you.
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    She sounds toxic, I honestly would be fine with her not coming. It seems like she may start drama or rumors at your wedding and that's the last thing you need.
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  • Samantha
    Expert December 2021
    Samantha ·
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    Leave her be and press on. She sounds toxic and that's the last thing you need around you when planning a wedding!
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  • Shannon
    Super July 2022
    Shannon ·
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    She cannot uninvite herself from your wedding. Only you can do that. I would leave her to her own drama and not engage further. I hope she doesn’t show up on your wedding day and create a scene.
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
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    Yep just don't engage. Come up with a party line that you'll give people trying to get involved. Something like, "not sure what's happening there, but she is welcome to attend".

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  • P.t.
    Dedicated December 2022
    P.t. ·
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    A wedding is a time of happiness. If she can’t get with the program then leave her out. She seems a little unpredictable and you don’t want to take the chance of her “acting out” on your big day.
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