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Just Said Yes October 2019

Sister trouble

Heather, on August 5, 2019 at 12:40 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 14

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My wedding is in 5 days.. One of my bridesmaids is my oldest sister. She has been trying to guilt trip me in every decision I have made. (Bridesmaid dresses, the line up) and the newest issue is who she wants to invite as her plus one. She recently met a man that I do not know. She asked to bring him and of course I said yes. Now, she just asked me if she could bring her new boyfriends two kids. I told her I didn’t really want her to but I would run it past my fiancé. She immediately got angry because she feels like I should have said yes right away. The thing is, she has been with this new man for 6 months, if that. She has always had a new man around for all occasions and I can’t take her serious anymore with who she dates because it is always drama. At the end of the day, she said these two boys are practically her sons now and if they can’t come, she may not be in the bridal party anymore. So of course, I said she could but told her the way she was acting was not acceptable, especially because it’s about myself and the groom. She is still arguing with me over it and I just simply want an apology for the way she acted. I really just want opinions on if I am over reacting or not. I thought she would be happy with a plus one, not it’s a plus 3 with herself and her own child.

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Latest activity by KAREN, on August 20, 2019 at 3:59 PM

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Courtney · on August 5, 2019 at 12:43 PM
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Stick to your guns. You were gracious enough to give her a plus one, someone you don't even know, and she should be happy with that.
If she doesn't come, then that's on her. Let her look back and see that she missed her own sister's wedding all because of some ex-fling's kids.
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Naikesha · on August 5, 2019 at 12:45 PM
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Are you serious your sister is selfish no her boyfriend’s kids shouldn’t be there. A plus one is enough that’s a far stress for her serial dating. I think you are right in being upset and I’m so sorry you are going through this.

Good of luck on getting your sister to understand where you are coming from.
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Caytlyn · on August 5, 2019 at 1:05 PM
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You already gave in to her demands, I don’t know what she could possibly be unhappy about. Unfortunately your sister doesn’t sound like the kind of person you’re going to get an apology from. I wouldn’t worry about it for another moment, let her be miserable.
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Cher Horowitz · on August 5, 2019 at 1:10 PM
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I don't think you're overreacting. She should have just left it with bringing the boyfriend. If she doesn't come to the wedding, it'll be a poor reflection on her, so try not to worry!
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Melle · on August 5, 2019 at 1:15 PM
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She does sound like she is overreacting when you have been very accommodating. Any other demands she has , don't follow them - youve already been so gracious
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Willow · on August 5, 2019 at 1:33 PM
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Your sister is completely out of line. Stand your ground from now on. Your graciousness will never be met with gratitude, it seems.
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Melissa · on August 5, 2019 at 2:24 PM
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Your sister is definitely being ridiculous. You said you don’t even know this guy and he wants to bring his kids? No. Stand your ground. If he’s known about the wedding for awhile, he should find a sitter. Even if he hasn’t, that’s your sister’s fault. Like others, I don’t think you will get an apology, but stand your ground and keep contact minimal until after the wedding to keep your stress down.
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Kelly · on August 5, 2019 at 2:36 PM
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Your sisters ridiculous. I'd just stop talking to her now until the day, especially because you caved to her demands. Shell occupy herself.
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Eva L. · on August 5, 2019 at 3:56 PM
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You’re not overreacting, she shouldn’t been adding this stress with the wedding around the corner.
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Heather · on August 5, 2019 at 4:44 PM
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Thank you all for all your nice comments. I just wanted to make sure I was not being unreasonable and turning into a “bridezilla” because that’s the last thing I want to do. I am not going to speak to her until rehearsal and hopefully she will chill out and not make a scene at the wedding.
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Florida Marlins · on August 5, 2019 at 8:29 PM
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No to the BF's kids. Like a HARD NO. If she draws a line in the sand: "I am sorry you feel that way, we will miss you at the wedding." Then talk about the local sports teams, lol!
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Concetta · on August 19, 2019 at 12:22 PM
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She is acting extremely selfish, the kids should not be there and it is so crazy of her to say she may not come.... it makes me think maybe the new boyfriend doesn't have a sitter or something. I hope she does not expect him in your photos!
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Cassi · on August 20, 2019 at 1:55 PM
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Coming from the perspective of a single mother at one point in time I would have NEVER asked to bring my own child to a SO's families event like this. A wedding is not the time to meet the whole family especially if its possibly not serious. I was dating my FH for 7 months and very graciously was given an invitation to my now best friends wedding as his date. We had my kiddo that weekend and I found a sitter because I was not going to ask to bring my child to this event. They should take it as a date night and be happy he got an invite to begin with.
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Dedicated October 2019
KAREN · on August 20, 2019 at 3:59 PM
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Our sisters sound related in ways, lol! Mine has been good about the decisions affecting her, but when it comes to the guest list she hasn't been so easy.
You seem to have handled it very well--don't let your sister guilt you anymore than she already has. It's easy to forget (especially if you're a people pleaser) that this is YOUR (and your fiancé's) day, not anyone else's (no matter how hard they try!). Good luck!
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