Sister speech?

That's not weird at all. Ask whoever you want to ask to be MOH and then have whoever you'd like do a speech.

I think it's ok to ask your sister. we didn't really have Best People on either side, but each of our brothers did a short speech. i've been at weddings where the MOH doesn't do a speech in favour of someone from the immediate family doing one. in your case it sounds like your MOH will be relieved not to do one anyway!

I would keep the BMs as is and just ask the MOH if she'd like to, no pressure. If she doesn't want to, then ask your sisters. Or you could ask them all! But, for proper etiquette, you're not technically supposed to ask anyone to give you a toast. But IMO I'd be honored to be asked.

I just went to a wedding where the best man and 4 groomsmen as well as the maid of honour gave speeches. When my sister got married, I gave the worst speech ever - not intentionally, I just felt really pressured and couldn't think of a thing to say that her incredibly picky husband wouldn't sneer at. Let them give speeches of they want to, but it shouldn't be required.

You don't think my sisters would be offended that I want them to do the speech by not be the MOH?

Maybe just throw it out there and say that if any of them would like to give a speech you'd be honored. Don't ask specifically if they will, just toss it out as an idea when they are all together. That way it doesn't feel like you're singling anyone out or giving preferential treatment.

My sister is my MOH but my mum has already asked to make a speech so I guess it can be whoever feels the most comfortable

I know for sure his BM will give a speech. He probably won't say anything about me in it either.

I would probably ask the MOH her preference! Or they could both do a speech if they both actually want to.

It's not required for the MOH to make a speech, just if she wants to. I would ask her first if she feels comfortable giving one, and if not, if it would be okay if one of your sisters gave a short speech. Nobody has to give a speech though, so only have one of your sisters do it if they are comfortable.

I want to give them both the option if my MOH doesn't want to do it. They could do it together if they want

Honestly, I'd wait to make this decision until you've actually picked your MOH. If you choose a friend, and they WANT to do a speech for you, are you going to tell her no, your sister is already doing that? That's kind of rude.

Hold off until you have wedding party asked and finalized. Then talk to them about what they would like to do!

@FutureVC I would by no means tell her she can't make a speech. I just wanted to know IF she said she didn't want to would it be rude to ask my sisters. I wouldn't ask them until I know whether she wants to or not. And they can all make a speech if they want to.

I'm social but introverted. I can honestly say that having to give a speech would really take away from my enjoyment of the wedding. Every moment would be a countdown until I had to speak in front of everyone. I think it's totally fine to have others give a speech.

Whatever you decide just don't tell them 10 minutes before the speeches, that they have to give a speech...happened to me and it was awful. They had a videographer so that speech is forever documented and it makes me cringe knowing that video is out there.

I sent a group text asking if anyone wanted to make speeches to please let me know. I had asked my MOH separately but my sisters wanted to and asked me, so I gave everyone the opportunity if they wanted. One groomsman (the guys were all pretty shy), my sisters (BMs), another BM, and my MOH gave toasts.

I sent a group text asking if anyone wanted to make speeches to please let me know. I had asked my MOH separately but my sisters wanted to and asked me, so I gave everyone the opportunity if they wanted. One groomsman (the guys were all pretty shy), my sisters (BMs), another BM, and my MOH gave toasts.