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Sister situation part 2

Isabel, on January 19, 2020 at 2:11 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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So in my past posts I've been speaking to how my situation with my sister has been difficult especially because I asked her to be a bridesmaid. The issue has been continuing with no end in sight. Particularly with her rude and infantile behavior.

This past weekend we were at an event and a photographer asked my family if we could be in a test shot for him. my sister stood up and screamed "oh hell no" then proceeded to bash photo taking at events specifically weddings.
This was my breaking point. It worries me if she hates being in photos this much I can only imagine how she will act when photos are being taken at our wedding. She just refuses to be in them. My FH and I are worried she ruin them out of protest and hatred for taking photos.
Any advice in how to handle this? I would hate not to have any photos of her in the wedding party or the wedding itself. I just don't want it to get to a point where I have to remove her from the wedding party all together but it seems like everything is pointing in that direction.

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Latest activity by Joanna, on January 20, 2020 at 1:35 AM

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Veronica · on January 19, 2020 at 2:23 PM
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Your sister sounds childish. Even if she wasn't a bridesmaid, silbings are normally in family photos. Your sister needs to suck it up and deal with photos. My mom hates having photos taken, but she was in a ton for my wedding. I would sit down with your sister and explain to her that it is important for her to be in the photos especially as a bridesmaid. I would simply tell her she can either deal with having her photos taken as a bridesmaid or she doesn't need to be in the wedding. You shouldn't have to compromise on your wedding because of her. Your wedding isn't about her. As a bridesmaid she would have her photo taken because she will be standing up with you.
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Kristyn · on January 19, 2020 at 2:32 PM
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Your photographer should do a lot of candid photos where your guest may not even know they are being taken so she may be in more than she would like. it really doesnt make much sence as to why she is so against it but if she feels that strongly I would just let her know how you feel and see if you can compramise maybe have special pictures with her in them and she can skip the other photos! Even ask the photographer to have her in limited amounts of shots to avoid conflict ?
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Shelly · on January 19, 2020 at 8:42 PM
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I would sit down with mother (as a witness) and sister for a conversation about wedding pictures. Ask her if she would prefer not to be in the wedding since she dislikes having her picture taken and there will be plenty of pictures taken that day. Remind her if she decides to stay a BM she will be required to act accordingly.
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Joanna · on January 20, 2020 at 1:35 AM
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I agree with all of the above comments.

I would also give a heads up to your photographer so they can be prepared if she lashes out during the wedding. Your vendors are there to help you get through the day; this is a perfect time to do so.
Wedding planning is stressful enough. You don't need anything additional like an irrational sister. It's okay to cut toxic people out.
Good luck!!
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