Sister not coming to wedding

I know all to well about this. I feel your pain triple time, and I hate to know someone else feels the way I do. I'm the youngest of 3 older siblings. I had both of my sister's back out of the MOH and bridesmaids spot in my day. I'm 42 days away. My brother wouldn't respond to any messages for his address. My heart has sank so many times during the wedding planning, for hurt feelings. I had to toughen up and keep going. It's definitely pit a huge strain on all three relationships for me. I hope she really comes through for you love.

To me that is completely ridiculous and I am so sorry.

Wow, that is so unbelievable. I would never put a stupid concert ahead of family. I’m so sorry!

View Quoted Comment I couldn’t agree more.

I would just straight up tell her how incredibly hurtful it is and how it makes you view your relationship. That’s F’d up.

You are totally right to feel hurt, angry and disappointed. I can't believe even when you shared your feelings with her that she chose the concert over your wedding. Not acceptable. If you've said all you can, I can understand putting some distance between you two and hope she realizes before it's too late that she needs to apologize and be there for you or her choice could ruin your friendship forever. She has several months to rethink her choice.

Big, big hugs to you.

Um. What? Pretty sure she could sell the tickets and go to the wedding. That's the worst thing I've ever heard. Have you told her how hurt you are, and you want her there? My family has had the wedding on the calendar since we've had a potential date and would never schedule over it. It sounds like you need to sit down and have a heart to heart and see if something else is going on.

This might sound ridiculous but if you can, I would get your parents involved...maybe they can talk some sense into her? Very sorry.

OMG I totally understand, about two weeks ago I found out that my sister is flying all the way out to my wedding and leaving the day of, so I totally get it. I was really hurt too. I posted here about it. Many people told me to just get over it, but it hurt a lot.

I would just tell her that you are hurt and see if she can change it, sell the tickets whatever.

I told my sister that I was hurt about it and she said she had the dates messed up. She now says she is coming, talk to her. Sending you love.

That's pretty messed up. People get brain fog and make mistakes. It happens. But if I were in her shoes I would try and sell the tickets if they were non-refundable and in worst case scenario, I would gift them to someone else. Personally I feel that one of the most important events in my sisters life would take precedence, and it would hurt my heart if I were in your shoes. I am so sorry for you.

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The one thing I have to say about the forums on this site is that people tend to be brutally honest. If you were being over sensitive or a drama queen you could bet your bottom dollar that the ladies on here would tell you so right quick. You've been done dirty girl, and it's like salt in the wounds that it comes from your sister. I feel terrible for you and I hope that she gains some clarity and gets her priorities straight. Her actions are the definition of the word "selfish."

This is why I don't miss any part of the wedding planning process. Most of my grief came from family and friends. That said your sister has made a poor choice and its extremely hurtful. But all you can do is hope that she comes around. Over time the hurt will start to feel manageable and you will move past this.

Yikes, I'm so sorry! You have every right to be hurt and upset!

I'd be cool towards her to let her know just how hurt you are, and that concert tickets would be bought within a week, depending on the concert, and she can totally sell them and make it to your wedding.

Don't cut her off or anything, just don't be warm to her either.

Maybe the guilt she'll feel will allow her to re-think her position.

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Lol this is so true!

View Quoted Comment I know how you feel too! This exact thing has happened to me.

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It's so weird. They even tried to get me to change the date---sigh--but now they say they are coming, we won't believe it until they give us the flights (they--her and her hubby) my stepfather isn't coming, hasn't even responded to emails, save the date, invites, calls, texts nothing. SIGH. Maybe he's got concert tickets too---who knows. SIGH family.

Sorry it happened to you too

I guess everyone has covered all the points I too believe: she should sell the ticket, or even loose the money - I know I would if it was my brother's wedding.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Let's hope she changes her mind. When is your RSVP due?

I can't imagine choosing a concert over my sister's wedding, and even if I really did make that mistake (which I have no idea how that even happens, I had my sister's date on my calendar the minute she booked her venue), I'd do whatever I could to correct it, like sell the tickets. Sorry she sucks!!!

I'm sorry, of all the reasons to miss your wedding a concert isn't a good one. I hope she comes to her senses and attends your wedding.

I'm so sorry. I'd probably disown my sister if she did this to me.