Sister not attending wedding

My fiancé has struggled with this and you just have to stand firm. His sister ended up saying she'd come when she realized he wouldn't budge

She needs to get over it. Also, when you exclude kids, you run this risk. It's kind of expected that someone will throw a fit.

My brother isn't invited as I did not want his 3 kids and drama filled girlfriend there. I'm expecting an angry text convo when they figure it out. I haven't found a good time to tell him. But he will know before invites go out.

It hasn't happened to me (yet) but I think the best course of action is what Christy said.

I'd try to be understanding about her not making it, especially if she's OOT, just to avoid bitterness for your own sake.

Just be careful- we've seen people say no, rsvp no, and then last minute they miraculously find child care and expect to be accommodated. Just be prepared for anything!

DH's brother didn't come. It hurt his mom a lot, but DH didn't care. He's not fond of his brother and SIL.

At the end of the day, the people that love and support you will be there. It's better to focus on those who are coming than those who aren't.

I won't be inviting my step-brothers' children. They have 5 between the two of them. I know they will both be angry and probably not attend. But, I don't want kids there and it's my decision so they can do with that what they please.

My oldest sister didn't invite our middle sister for her wedding(I'm struggling if I want to invite her also) she's a drama person. We all just turned our phones when she started calling in the middle of the reception.

I don't think you should expect to have these issues if you exclude kids. I have never been to a wedding where there were kids other than maybe a flower girl. Sorry but its pretty common for weddings to be adults only and anyone who throws a fit over it just does not get to come.

If she would like to write a giant check, then she can have an opinion.

Yes and my response to myself was, I wasn't gonna let anyone or negativity and drama make my special day stressful. You don't want to support our marriage I don't need your permission or blessings. My FH is my family now and he comes first. We will make our own memories and tradition. Oviously I wouldn't say this to them but if they want to act like children or treat me different because of who I am marring then I am sorry you won't come to my wedding.

Yep. And my brother choosing Disney World over my wedding - the first time we would have had all of my parents kids in one room - hurt. It still hurts, but I told him that it was fine because he is the one who will regret it one day, not me. Enjoy the people who are there, and other than a sting every once in a while, you won't really miss them.

She's in town and has options for childcare, she's just choosing not to utilize it. She's basing her rsvp on principle alone...that if her kids aren't welcome, she doesn't want to be a part of it. She's always been the family drama queen and consistently has "beef" with multiple people so I know I'M not the problem. At the same time, its hurtful when someone, especially your sibling, HATES you for no other reason than "you got straight As, you were dad's favorite, you graduated college and I can never live up to perfect little Tera" Her exact words a year ago when she was mad at me for something else. I figured she'd find one reason or another to not attend. But it felt good telling her we had to stay in budget and that last time I checked, nobody was writing me a check to expand our venue lol. I still struggle internally with being disliked so much. I try not to let it bother me but it still does.

My sister most likely will not attend my wedding. We havent talked in about 2 years. It bothers my Mother but my thought is, one less dinner to purchase. You can't make everyone happy. Also to say you have to accommodate everyone is a no. My wedding and dinner is definitely no kids with no explanation offered. Look at the silence from your sibling as a plus by not having to deal with the drama (and what sounds like jealousy).

My aunt chose not to. It sucks but it's her choice. I still intend to have a fabulous day (without the negative energy there)

I have one aunt and one uncle. My uncle/wife were the only 2 of 250 invited guests, who didn't have the courtesy to RSVP to my wedding. After my grandmother had to track them down, my mother said "They're dead to me!" They didn't even acknowledge my marriage with a congratulatory e-mail.

The following year we saw them at another wedding and they ignored my family as though we were strangers, for over an hour. My father had to walk over to them and break the ice and say hello. My aunt pulled me aside and told me two lies, about why they didn't attend, or even RSVP.

We had a fabulous wedding and certainly didn't miss them. They missed a great night - LOL!

Right there with you! Both of our siblings have been an absolute nightmare. My fiancé sister went completely crazy because we are getting married before her. My I add my fiancé is 5 years older. Then was not happy we can't have the kids there. They are just too young. To add, my brother is selfish and said he doesn't know if he can make it because of work. My I add he is in my bridal party. I just want to tell them if you can't keep your mouth shut and be happy for us just don't come.

Good news is you won't have to pay for her meal!

Dont worry about it. Im not inviting my sister because she has bever really been a sister to me plus when i had my daughter she called our mom and freaked out about what i was naming her cause it was to close to her daughters name. My girls name is Addison hers is andylynn.... I dont really see the similarity lol just have to let it go.

Well I'm glad I'm not alone when it comes to family drama. She rsvpd over a week ago and I never said a word to her about it bus she had to email me today to give an explanation. Guess I didn't give her the attention she wanted lol. Hannah S - those names sound nothing alike haha! But when I got pregnant with my second son (my previous marriage) we announced it to the family and she literally ran out of the house crying because she had been trying to get pregnant and couldn't. As if I shouldn't have children if she was struggling to.

I don't think my older sister will be attending my wedding. She didn't really say anything or congratulate me on the engagement. She does live in a different country and we have not seen each other in 5 years though. It sucks because other family members are asking me if she will be in attendance since she's distanced herself from almost everyone during the past 3 years....

At the end of the day, it's your sister's decision not to attend. You are working with a tight budget and being responsible by hosting the number of guests you can afford. She has more than enough time to find a sitter. Some people would rather stand on principle then to be supportive.