Hello all,
I just need to rant and get this all off my chest because I am trying so hard not to overreact and be understanding that accidents and mistakes happen but I am just so ANGRY.
I got married on December 4th and my husband and I left for our little mini-moon on December 6 and were gone for a week. I left my wedding dress with my mom. But apparently, my sister took it and told my mom that I asked her to drop it off to be sent out for the cleaning and preservation that I had purchased from David's Bridal with my dress. I did not ask her to do such thing. Why she felt the need to lie about that? IDK maybe she was trying to do something nice but it back fired.
When she took it to get sent out she didn't know my address so she asked my mom and she gave it to her. HOWEVER when filling out the address she put in the wrong zip code and accidently put in her zip code. And for some reason put my mom's number and email for status updates and notifications to be sent and not my information. Again IDK why she would do that instead of just asking me what my address and email was. She also didn't tell my mom that she put her contact info instead of mine.
When we got back from our mini moon is when my mom told me that my sister sent out my dress. So I was like ok cool! That was great and very nice of her. Then holidays came around and then my family and I got sick and my mom takes care of my grandma with dementia so she was too busy to check her emails. But earlier this month she saw that she received a notification a few weeks ago saying my dress was delivered. Confused she calls me and asked if I ever got my dress and I said no... and this is where all hell breaks loose. I check the tracking and it says it was delivered in the end of December in the city where my sister lives. I called my sister and asked if she had it. Se said no. I called David's Bridal, the gown preservation place, and UPS to see what the heck happened and where my dress is! That is when they told me it was delivered to some residence in the city my sister lives in because of the zip code. I asked them why it wasn't shipped back to them since my address was filled out correctly minus the zip code and if the city and zip code didn't match wouldn't they have sent it back?! Apparently not...
I told my sister of her mistake and she does feel bad and apologized and I am trying to be understanding because it was an accident and not like she did it on purpose (i would hope not.. but she was butt hurt when I made our other sister MOH but that's another story). But I just don't understand! Why did she lie and tell my mom I specifically asked her to take it to be sent out? Why would she put my mom's contact info for status updates and notifications? Why would she not call or text me to let me know she was doing this and confirm my address with me or double check what she filled in?! I am still so very very angry and upset with her and her stupid, simple mistake. And not only that, I saw a copy of the form she filled out and didn't think to pay the extra $5 for the insurance and needing a signature to delivery the dress. If it were me, I would have tripled check the address and paid the extra to make sure it required the signature for delivery for something so sentimental because I know packages get stolen every day, but ESPECIALLY during the holidays.
So my dress is missing and I may never see it again. I filed a claim through UPS and the gown preservation place said UPS will attempt 3 times to retreive the dress from the residence it was delivered to but that's about all they can do. I have also joined community pages on FB in the off chance that whoever may have my dress will see it and will be a good person and reach out to me, but that is a long shot. I can't even get financial reimbursement since it was an error on her end, and my sister hasn't offered any help to find it or anything (i wouldn't take her money but it would be nice if she offered some sort of compensation for HER mistake and she is not poor.)
I will have to get over it eventually and I will forgive her, but its just going to take some time and a little distance from her right now.
