Long before my fiance and I got engaged we talked about wedding details, including our bridal party. We come from large families with lots of cousins. We also have friends from different parts of our lives. We decided on 3 bridal party members on each side. My side will be my best friend from childhood, my fiance sister and my best friend from college. My fiance will have his buddy from college, my brother and his friend from high-school. I thought we were set!! When I told my parents they were concerned about me not including my brothers wife (I was in their wedding as a bridesmaid). But we explained that we wanted to keep it simple so we didn't have to worry about upsetting our cousins and friends or having to make anyone upset. They seemed to understand and I thought it was done. Well now my mom texted me and tells me my sister in law will be so heart broken if she isn't included and her feelings will be hurt. My sister in law and i will go to lunch, but never alone. It's always with my mom or my brother. We don't have alot in common, but we are polite with each other.
I wasn't trying to hurt anyone's feelings. But this is what my fiance and I wanted. And now I feel like I'm being pressured to change and accommodate someone else for fear of making her upset. I want to stay strong and keep my plan. I think I'm upset at this point because it seems like my sister in laws feelings are more important than mine and my fiance.