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Sister-in-law roles

CaliGal, on February 2, 2017 at 4:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 20
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I have my bridesmaids set, but I need to find a way to incorporate my FH sister. We do not want a reading done. She's cool, no issues, just not very close...any other ideas????

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  • Susan
    Dedicated April 2017
    Susan ·
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    My fiancés sister is going to be the videographer, that's all we needed and she has experience so it worked perfect!

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  • RealLindseyO
    Master October 2017
    RealLindseyO ·
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    Do not use Susan's suggestion. Having your family work is gross.

    If she doesn't want to do a reading or give a toast, I can't see any other way to involve her that isn't a job- maybe she could be an usher if you're having them? Otherwise being an honored guest should be enough.

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  • Jaimee
    Master October 2019
    Jaimee ·
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    Not really.

    FH could always have her a groomswoman.

    Outside of that, you could ask her to be an usher, but giving her any other job or duty would be rude.

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  • brieliz
    VIP January 2017
    brieliz ·
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    Maybe escort someone down the aisle, maybe a grandmother or someone on the grooms side

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  • Mrswelch
    Master December 2017
    Mrswelch ·
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    My FSIL has anxieties and so she declined being a BM, I'm still giving her a special gift though and trying to include her as well.

    I'm not even going to touch having FSIL doing videography... I think it's a horrible idea to have family members working, especially during the important moments of a wedding, experience or no.

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  • C
    Beginner May 2017
    CaliGal ·
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    I can include her in processional, wear corsage, give toast, and give her a gift

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  • Mrswelch
    Master December 2017
    Mrswelch ·
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    If it's in your budget @Rimah, you could also offer to pay to have her makeup and/or hair done? I offered to pay for FSIL and FMIL's makeup for the day (as well as my own Mom but she declined lol). That's an idea as well?

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  • Meghan
    Just Said Yes May 2017
    Meghan ·
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    My fiancé has two sisters and my wedding party is only three girls so I did not want to essentially double my party by adding both. We decided on including them on all activities possible, but not much in the wedding itself. For example, I'm having them join me for the "getting ready" portion so they can drink a mimosa and get their hair done if they do chose. Otherwise they will just be a guest.

    It may be a relief to them! Not sure their status but then there is no pressure for them to have you as a bridesmaid in return.

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  • C
    Beginner May 2017
    CaliGal ·
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    Yes, can do that too!

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  • Chelsea
    VIP June 2017
    Chelsea ·
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    We're asking my FSILs to act as our witnesses and sign the marriage certificate

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  • Lindsey
    Super June 2017
    Lindsey ·
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    Honestly, FH and I went to FSIL's wedding this past summer. We weren't involved in the wedding at all, we were just guests. This was 100% okay with each of us. It was nice to just be able to show up and enjoy the night.

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  • Bemyguest
    Master April 2017
    Bemyguest ·
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    If you're having mothers/grandmothers walked down the aisle, she can do that!

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  • C
    Beginner May 2017
    CaliGal ·
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    We thought all was ok, but FH got inquiry about it from his brother.

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  • Miami2NorthernVA
    Master November 2017
    Miami2NorthernVA ·
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    You do not need her to be in your wedding. Everyone in you and FH's family does not need to be in the wedding. Last wedding I went to the parents of the groom just sat in the front row.

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  • Leanne
    VIP April 2017
    Leanne ·
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    None of my sister is laws are involved. I have asked them if they want to join us to get pretty with champagne. They'll

    Come in the limo with us, neither of my brothers have roles either

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  • lyla
    Master July 2017
    lyla ·
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    You don't need her in the actual wedding. It's definitely not a rule that all siblings need to be in it, and you even said that you aren't close. Maybe have her get ready with you or her brother the day of.

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  • Annette Schuneman
    July 2020
    Annette Schuneman ·
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    I liked the idea of a corsage or small nosegay of flowers; whatever you think she might like. Just something to honor her. It sounds like you're on the right track to just include her in things the day of.

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  • C
    Beginner May 2017
    CaliGal ·
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    Thank you all! Great responses.

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  • Shows2017
    Super September 2017
    Shows2017 ·
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    I'm having FSIL walk in with a single rose in place of their mother which is deceased.

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  • Holly
    VIP June 2018
    Holly ·
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    Have her stand on his side of the bridal party

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