Sister-in-law just got engaged

I got engaged after my uncle and my now-aunt but I can't stand her either. Especially when I found out she stole some of my ideas for HER wedding.

Yes! I worked my ass off planning my wedding, I don't want her steal my ideas, or even ask me 5 million questions on vendors. FIGURE IT OUT YOURSELF! I know she just got engaged, but I know these people and I know what is coming. lol.

Keep your fingers crossed they won't bug you. And if they do, just tell them that you are sure they will want her wedding to unique and special to her. You wouldn't dare think to reuse ideas from your wedding. But if you are still being pressed, send her to theknot. lol

Even when I was planning our wedding, my mother-in-law would say "you better remember how to do this for when [my daughter] gets married". I think I will use the "unique and special to her" line. I like it!

I think at that age most girls just like to be the center of attention. My sister who is only 18 announced her engagement not six weeks after we did, and she only met the guy after our engagement!

If I have to hear one more time about how wonderful their relationship is I may scream! My mother has never approved of my FH because we've lived together, but she approves of a 19 year old boy marrying her 18 year old daughter after dating for two months?

Oh well, my mother can have her time planning that wedding in FL, and leave me alone up here!

Yes! My mother-in-law will have something else to focus on! My husband's family liked me until we got engaged. His grandma, mom, and sister behaved so badly that I finally just cut them out of helping me plan completely. I didn't even answer their phone calls for months.

So I know they are going to be tacky about "finally getting to help plan a wedding" and "being included" blah blah blah.

Tell her thats half the fun of planning a wedding and I don't want to take that away from you. You will never forgive me if I don't let you have all the fun and excitement I had when I was planning mine.

I totally agree with Mom N's excuse. Sounds good to me.

I do know how you feel--the same thing happened to me but with my own family. I am not my sis' bm and I'm still sucked into all the wedding planning. And she wanted all my good vendors, after totally dissing my wedding, my ideas, all that I did wrong- disorganization, cheapness...blah blah blah...if it was so bad, why do you want any of my vendors anyway, right? whatever. I have left her to fend for herself basically, since I've helped her all of her life and boy what a whiner she has become, spoiled, entitled, attention grabber.

If you don't want to give away all your secrets, you don't have to.

I gave my vendors' phone number only after repeated bugging, and then if my vendor doesn't return her call, I'm certainly not going to call for her. I think I knew that would happen, just because over the phone she already seems whiny, y'know.

FH's SIL just got engaged too. I love his family, and they love me so it's actually been really fun! I just went to a bridal show with FMIL and FSIL and we were comparing tastes and helping each other out with new ideas!

Sorry that your FSIL sounds like a brat.

If you have a bad relationship with her I doubt she will ask you to be a bridesmaid.

So I just checked my facebook and she already has like 5 close-up pictures of her ring posted. I don't mean to offend anyone, but I think those pictures are so tacky! She doesn't post the story of how he proposed, how much she loves him, no new pictures of them,nothing, it's all about the ring. I was so excited when my husband proposed, and I would show people my ring when they asked in person, but I don't like it when people are so superficial. I know it is just immaturity, but it just annoys me.

I hope she doesn't ask me to be a bridesmaid, but I'm worried because she was in our wedding. Why? Because his family threw a fit!

Anyways, still really annoyed by this, and dreading to have to see her and pretend to be excited.

Thanks for all the advice, and I will keep you posted!

TACKY! I was just looking on her facebook and our Mass Coordinator from our wedding, who was a friend of my MIL, thus also a pain in my ass, commented on my SILs wall. This is how it went....

Mass Coordinator: heard gossip and am assuming it's true! Congratulations to you guys. I'll bet your Mom and Dad are THRILLED to be planning another wedding so soon.

My SIL: Hahah, ill have to share some details on that when I see you next

Tacky right? Or am I just being sensitive?

I know exactly hat you mean. I was going to announce we were getting engaged back in 08. I told my fsil that we were planning to get married but don't yet when to announce it but we have talked about it and think e are ready to get married. That night her bf told me to stop showing her stuff or else she gets ideas and he dont want to get married and such. Within a week after my fsil call us saying she just got engaged. Like wth?? I was a little upset. I said congrats but wasn't to thrill. Anyway her wedding became such a disaster. When we finally announce our engagement none of his family was excited