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Emyli
Just Said Yes September 2021

Sister-in-law hosting rehearsal dinner and welcome party - how to thank/acknowledge?

Emyli, on May 19, 2021 at 12:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

Hello! My future sister-in-law has graciously offered to fully host our rehearsal dinner and our welcome party. We were initially looking at a more affordable rehearsal dinner and a non hosted party to fit our budget, but she wants to go a little nicer for the dinner and fully host the party. She wants to do this partly because she knows traditionally the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner and their mom as recently passed away so she wants to do want she knows their mom would. We're obviously super grateful, and I wondering if we should acknowledge her in some way? Or if we should send a thank you gift?

Also would love any pre-emptive advice how how to make sure she doesn't go overboard without sounding ungrateful! We have different styles so we want to carefully navigate making sure this party still reflects us as much as possible.

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Latest activity by Tina, on May 19, 2021 at 4:08 PM
  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    Re: a thank you gift—absolutely! I’d give a traditional hostess gift—orchid plant, nice bottle of wine, a basket of breakfast pastries for her to have a non-fuss meal the morning after the parties.


    Re: making sure she doesn’t go too over the top, I don’t think there’s anything you can do here. Once you agreed to letting her host and pay for parties, you gave up control of the event. I’d just trust her generosity and roll with it. You know your wedding will reflect the two of you!
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  • Givemeallthepups
    Expert February 2020
    Givemeallthepups ·
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    I would definitely give her a hosting gift! I gave a variety of gifts to the folks that hosted events for me:

    - My best friend that co-hosted my bridal shower received a monogrammed blanket
    - Other best friend that co-hosted my bridal shower received a print of the song that her fiance proposed to / which will also be their first dance song.
    - Both mothers (helped with shower, wedding and rehearsal dinner) received
    a small photo book of our engagement photos at the shower, hand-embroidered handkerchiefs (I do embroidery as a hobby) on the wedding day, and photo books of wedding photos after the fact.

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  • C
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    Regarding style, I’d refrain from giving too much input and allow her to host the party fully.


    Gifts - I think taking them out for a nice dinner after the wedding or some sort of experience is always nice.
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
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    A thank you gift is absolutely appropriate. Choose something that goes with her lifestyle. If she has hobbies, a gift related to that would be nice. Or you can get her a spa day (massage, manicure, etc.) so she can feel fully pampered after hosting for you. Just make it personal. Those are the best gifts.

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  • T
    Devoted August 2020
    Tina ·
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    She sounds super wonderful. I say between the three of you sit down and write down what both of you want. She has to listen only with little input. So she can hear what both of you want. It doesn’t need to be overly expensive if thats not what the two of you want. Meet somewhere in the middle for the place to have it had. Like a favorite restaurant.


    Thank you gift would be wonderful to give her. Would say an orchid if she loves flowers, wine if she likes to have a cup. Things like that would be good you know better what she likes
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