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OldSchoolKindaLove
Devoted September 2018

Sister Drama

OldSchoolKindaLove, on March 6, 2020 at 11:06 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8
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This post isn't necessarily wedding related, but I didn't know where else to turn.

My husband and I recently purchased our first home. We have been diligently working on updating, unpacking, and all the things that come with a new home. We are to the stage where we can plan our housewarming party.

However, here's the situation: My sister and her husband are in the process of purchasing their house. I thought it would be nice to ask my sister their closing date, because I know it's coming up within the next few weeks. My parents are wanting to "host" our housewarming. I know invitations should be sent out at least 2 if not 3 weeks in advance. DH and I have looked at the calendar and though we want to have it this month, it may not be feasible. We have discussed pushing it to next month, but it appears doing so causes a major conflict because that's when my sister and her husband close on their house. I feel like every time I have a milestone/big event planned, my sister always finds a way to change the focus from me to her. Then I end up feeling like the bad person, or I am selfish because I've got an agenda that works best for me but doesn't accommodate my sister's plans. I'm getting to the point where though I love my family, but I am tired of always feeling letdown and hurt. I've also began thinking, maybe I should stop including my family in things since I am always an inconvenience. Hoping for advice.

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Latest activity by Pam, on March 7, 2020 at 4:38 AM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    I don’t really understanding why it would matter though for you to have a house warming when or around the time they close on their house? Because they could have their own house warming after they’ve settled in and I wouldn’t find it to be stealing anyone’s thunder
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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I agree with Melle. Your housewarming party has nothing to do with when your sister closes on a house. Just have your party whenever it's convenient for the two of you, I don't really see how your family is making you feel let down or hurt by this.

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  • OldSchoolKindaLove
    Devoted September 2018
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    Sorry, I left out a detail. My parents agreed to help them move. However, I don't see where a few hours would cause a problem. Even if my parents do host, it's not like I expect them to come and set up my house for the party. Just come be there greet guests, etc.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    Ah are you worried that maybe it would be conflicting dates, then?
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  • OldSchoolKindaLove
    Devoted September 2018
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    Yes, I didn't want to risk having conflicting dates. However it appears the whole month is a conflicting date according to my sister, and my mom seems to side with her. It's a struggle.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    I think you could also just host your own housewarming party if you wanna avoid this issue of scheduling with your parents if they’re too pre occupied. I’m hosting my own soon as I also moved in not long ago and it’s really easy I mean do it in a time where you won’t need to host a full meal. Just have simple things like drinks and appetizers. Give people a tour of the house. Mingle a little bit and that’s it. housewarming can really just even be a couple of hours long.
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
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    I'm kind of confused as to why they're hosting your housewarming party? I feel like this is generally a party that you and your husband host to show all the hard work you've put into your new home. You would generally be the one providing food/drinks/entertainment. I'd politely decline your mother's offer and just host it yourselves. Then you don't have to work around your sister schedule.

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  • P
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    Exactly. This is a party you ought to be hosting, not anyone else. It's not a gifting occasion.

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