Sister Drama

If you don't feel close enough to your sister to ask her to be a bridesmaid, you shouldn't. If you had asked all of your sisters but her, that might be a little different. But you shouldn't feel obligated to have her in your bridal party. This is the same thing as people you barely know expecting an invite to your wedding, for some reason weddings make people feel entitled! The last thing you want to do is add her in just because she wants you to, it will only cause drama later on.

Just be honest with her (as much as it may be painful to do). You are closer to your other sis and talk all of the time and that goes for the other girls that are in your wedding party. At this point, you can't accommodate any more girls, but would love to have her at the wedding. Or however you phrase it. Either way, you will get blow back from your other sisters, so be prepared for that as well, and how you handle it will depend on your relationship with them.

You're not being mean, your younger sister is being rude. I would just tell her that you don't feel like you guys are close enough for her to be in the bridal party, but you'd love to celebrate with her at the wedding and other pre-wedding events.

I agree - you should not include her if you aren't close! If she's really upset about it and it gets to you, you could try to give her another role. But I would do what the other ladies have said and just tell her you can't accommodate any more bridesmaids.

The younger sister is the one being rude here. You're not obligated to include anyone in your bridal party! Stick to your decision and keep your bridal party to only your nearest and dearest!

Stand your ground! You chose her for a reason and you are at full capacity. Tell the other sister straight up that you went with the girls closest to you. If you don’t have a relationship or a close one with your other sisters it shouldn’t come as a surprise to them that they weren’t asked. I think she may just be trying to be petty.

Don’t feel guilty for not having someone as your bridesmaid. It’s your wedding.

If there's one thing I think we've all learned from wedding planning it's that feelings do get hurt. I don't think it's anything time can't heal, however. I think you should definitely stick to your guns! Be as sweet and polite as you can be when you explain that you're at capacity and you didn't think the two of you were that close. It's possible she feels she's closer to you than you thought she was. I've definitely learned that lesson the past few months - people reaching out to be invited when I didn't think we were very good friends to begin with, but they felt they were. AWKWARD, but just admitting that you didn't think you were and that you're at capacity should help ease the tension a little. Then cross that conversation off your list and move on because you've got a wedding to plan!

I don't think she's being rude, I think she just wanted to know why you asked one of your sisters and not the others. There's nothing wrong with that. You just have to be honest and tell her you feel closer to your other sister. It might hurt her feelings but on the other hand, she might understand. Depends on the person.